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MIL judging our kitchen

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ML5 · 20/08/2025 18:43

Was at work today & DH Works from Home. MIL passes by while DH is middle of working and goes straight to kitchen and starts complaining to DH what a state kitchen is & we need a new kitchen. We are wanting to do our house up so garage conversion, kitchen, bathroom & decorating etc, so DH explained this to her but she proceeded to continue saying we should do Kitchen before Conversion so DH ended up having a go at her twice.
AIBU to think this was very rude of her to do/judge us in this way & AIBU to mention something or leave to my DH to mention again if she does

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Nevertrustacop · 20/08/2025 20:14

Good God. She doesn't like your kitchen and said so. You agree with her. How is this a problem? We just paid a shed load for a new kitchen and my mum announced she preferred the old one! Which is entirely up to her. I literally couldn't care less and have complete confidence in my own kitchen decisions

bombastix · 20/08/2025 20:17

She is rude and has nothing better to do. Your husband dealt with it fine

HeddaGarbled · 20/08/2025 20:17

I think she picked her moment to say to her son: “this isn’t fair on ML5, sort it out”.

But you won’t give her the benefit of the doubt, will you?

BlueMum16 · 20/08/2025 20:22

ML5 · 20/08/2025 18:54

Should I say something indirectly to her or just leave it

Don't say anything. Your DH has dealt with it.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 20/08/2025 20:27

@ML5 keep the bloody door locked so she cannot come in!!

curious79 · 20/08/2025 20:28

You were at work. Stay well out of it. Put your feet up, have a cup of tea and stop getting so offended. Even you think it all needs redoing

londongirl12 · 20/08/2025 21:13

My god, why do you care. Just roll your eyes and ignore her.

Tagyoureit · 20/08/2025 22:02

Next time she says anything like this, get really excited and say

"omg yes!!! thats so generous of you!"

And then literally go in to colours and vibes and how you'd think the flow of kitchen should be such and such and how it would be so lovely if this was here and that was there and how you'd love, love, love to have a semi integrated bosch self cleaning double oven just here!!!

And then smile like a maniac at her!!

😂😂

outerspacepotato · 20/08/2025 22:20

Tagyoureit · 20/08/2025 22:02

Next time she says anything like this, get really excited and say

"omg yes!!! thats so generous of you!"

And then literally go in to colours and vibes and how you'd think the flow of kitchen should be such and such and how it would be so lovely if this was here and that was there and how you'd love, love, love to have a semi integrated bosch self cleaning double oven just here!!!

And then smile like a maniac at her!!

😂😂

😂

Start measuring and thank her for making your dream of a commercial dishwasher come true.

Endofyear · 20/08/2025 22:37

Who cares what she thinks? I wouldn't give it any headspace at all unless she says something to you directly, in which case just tell her it's none of her business!

ImGoneUnderground · 23/08/2025 23:00

Sorry, missed some of the replies, but I would leave it.....maybe send her some quotes for the total refurb to get things in YOUR home up to HER standards, and say 'thank you for offering to pay'....??? But, being serious, surely its actually its a DH issue that he dealt with already?🌹

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