To want to leave my parnter

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Both 30 with 2DC. Met when we were 17. I love him, care from him, fancy him but I don’t know, I just feel bored. I feel absolutely awful for feeling this way. I haven’t cheated but have been chatting with people OLD. I have no interest in meeting these people but it feels exciting. I know that makes me a horrible person. DS2 is autistic and wouldn’t know any different but DS1 adores his dad and would be heartbroken if we split. My parents also love DH so that makes things difficult too. If I told him all this I know he wouldn’t accept it.

I am a terrible person

@Singlehanded This is not a dating pick up hook up site.
You even left your email.
Op is looking for advice not a new man.
Especially on mumsnet.

If you’re not happy discuss it. Take it from there.

It’s slim pickings on online dating, if he’s a good guy and he’s open to making changes etc I’d try couples therapy etc first. But equally you only live once so don’t stay if you’re unhappy

I don't think you're being unreasonable it depends why you are bored?
Are you/how long married? What are you bored with? Is the spark gone? Lack of intimacy, lack of sex? You don't give much detail.
Sounds like your missing something in your relationship which is common if you met him when you were young and been together for 13yrs, but it's hard to know what's wrong without more details.

Is he a husband or just a boyfriend?
Are you dependent on him for housing or money?
It's not fair on him to be seeking out dates and chats online with men, so just tell him and let him decide if he wants to break up.
Be careful, as there are men who prey upon lone mothers for various reasons. See 1st reply to the thread, that was deleted

Sounds like you have a massive self destruct button OP. If you love your partner I think you need therapy to explore your feelings before you blow your life up. It maybe that you should move on, but I think you need to understand your motivations first- because at the moment it sounds like you don't.

Pretty sure there's another poster on here today that's done the same. Maybe the two of you should make friends?