Why do I feel this way about him?

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There’s a man, an acquaintance, who I’ve known for the past few years. We bump into each other every month or so, sometimes several times a month. We chat and joke and he asks lots of questions about my life. He’s indirectly complimented my appearance a few times.

All of the above is just friendless and kindness of course, and I hadn’t thought anything of it until now, as I’m about to leave and move to a new town.

The thought of not seeing this man (who I don’t even really know well) just seems to make me feel sad and there’s a hollow in my stomach… I know it sounds dramatic and silly but why do I feel this way?

Our last conversation was awkward…. It was in a cafe, and he said on his way out, “I’ll see you about then,” and stupidly I said, “well you won’t be seeing me about because I’m moving to [new place] next month”. He didn’t say anything.

I know I’m ridiculous but why so I feel like this?

I think you know op. Just give him your number.

If you're both single, give him your number/email as pp said.

Perfect time to do something. Don’t let this chance pass you by, what do you have to lose! Tell him and ask for his number if he is interested great if not then you are leaving and won’t see him again.

I don’t know whether he’s single or not…

It could be some nerves about your move. He represents the familiar and not seeing him again is wrapped up in ‘the new’ which is scary even if the move is what you desire.

Is there an attraction, do the conversations feel like flirting?
Is he wearing a wedding ring? If not there’s only one way to find out, ask him on a date or tell him you want to keep in touch and give him your number.

He seems to look at me very intensely and smile a lot. But he could just be like that with everyone.

Is it possible to die you to get in touch with him once you leave? Do you know people you can ask about his 'situation?'

How far away are you moving?

Give him your number and tell him how he makes you feel.

What’s the worst that can happen? If you don’t end up in a relationship with him then you might make a friend.

Life is too short. Do not regret not taking any action.

you luurve him!!

"it would be lovely to keep in touch once I move, here's my number - it would be great to catch up properly over a coffee sometime"

You miss 100% of shots you don't take, if you want to see him again there is no downside to politely asking.

I want the laugh react for this 😂

@Tagyoureit But in all honesty I think love is too strong a word considering I don’t know him well

This would be a nice and less direct way than just saying, ‘let’s have coffee/dinner’.

Although I’d need to make sure he’s single first.

Defo do this. Go and find him before move.

I’ll definitely bump into him in town over the next few weeks at some point. I’ll probably suggest adding each other on Facebook, that way if he is taken then it’s less awkward and we could just be friends.

What I tend to do is put the number through WhatsApp and that usually has a surname on there, then I do a quick Facebook to check that they're single.

Hope it goes smoothly, I know it can feel a bit nerve wracking :).

Of course it is! I was just ribbing you but you obviously have feelings that you do want to pursue otherwise you wouldnt be feeling this way.

Honestly, shot your shoot!! What do you honestly have to lose? No embarrassing encounters after as you wont be around but imagine never trying and then kicking yourself!!

Be brave!!

@Tagyoureit Haha I know. I don’t even have to directly ‘ask him out’ I can just paint it as ‘staying in touch’ or catching up.

If he's on Facebook, try and suss out if he has a girlfriend, it's usually pretty obvious fun that.

Best of British!!

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