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Caught myself wishing the summer to end - AIBU to want help to remind me how precious this time will be when I look back in 10 years?!?!

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FusionChefGeoff · 19/08/2025 18:50

Every year I say ‘we’ve done too much this summer it’s been stressful thank God next summer won’t be like that.

And then, here I am, counting down the days and thinking how frantic I’ve been.

Kids are a young 13 and 10 - I own my own agency business so although I have flex, a lot of the childcare and associated planning or admin for clubs / in laws / my parents to have them is on me. We’re very lucky to have so much help but it’s a struggle to find clubs now so I’m covering more and more days myself to take the strain away from ageing grandparents.

We like to have a full 2 weeks away as a family - usually a Eurocamp style campsite recently involving long ferry and car journeys and a lot of packing / prep.

Then there’s always stuff that comes up I can’t say no to: 2 family weddings, parent or in-law big birthday weekends, Golden wedding weekends.

Then there’s stuff I feel pathetic about not doing ‘because I’m too stressed’ like a family music festival or a day and a show in London. The kids LOVE this and I’d feel like I’m depriving them if I stopped doing those.

But this year work has also been crazy despite my best efforts; clients ultimately call the shots and 2 big decisions and a new pitch all came through whilst we were away.

Next year, we already have a family wedding abroad a week before schools breakup and a music festival I’ve always fancied but that’s usually too far away will be taking place on our doorstep so it feels like that needs to go in the diary already….

I love pottering at home and have had no time to breathe since about 14th July.

Do I just suck it up - made my bed (kids, business) so lie in it??

Do I adjust expectations and start to cancel the icing on the cake stuff and stick with the ‘compulsory’ attendance only?!

Any other advice on how to make it less of an endurance event and more of a ‘making memories’ summer?!?!

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FusionChefGeoff · 19/08/2025 18:55

Ps we did sack off the annual music festival this year as DH just couldn’t swing any more time off I’m so glad we did from a stress levels view but I’m really missing the experience

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FusionChefGeoff · 20/08/2025 23:16

I really thought this would have struck a chord with more people - just giving it a quick bump

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trumpshairbrush · 20/08/2025 23:34

It sounds like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. I get it because I’m the same. I start off summer with a list of all the wonderful things I want to do but in reality I have a massive juggling act with work, we have no family support, the household chores still need doing and mostly the dc just want to potter, see friends or stare at screens anyway.

We went on holiday at the start of summer and the preparation (shopping, packing, cleaning before we go) and the sorting when we get back (unpacking, washing, cleaning again) took almost as long as the break! Genuinely it’s ok to do nothing some of the time. It’s nice to have one or two big days out but if you are feeling frantic about it then it’s not good for you or the dc.

BUMCHEESE · 20/08/2025 23:36

Very much strikes a chord with me but almost feel too busy and overwhelmed to reply!

DH and I are completely exhausted and haven't had a breather since early July, only got back today from a trip away and are due to go camping for the long weekend. Then the day after we get back away to see family, the following weekend to see other family. Then school starts. Plus full on jobs and house renovations and other stresses.

The DC are so dysregulated.

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