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To pull out of this house sale?

26 replies

parrotywotsit · 18/08/2025 18:48

I've got a bit of a bargain on a house, nothing equivalent will come around this cheap. I'm also at the very bottom of the market - currently renting after a break up.

It's a terrace with access across next door, a path against the house. I went for a follow up viewing and their dogs were using the garden as a toilet - claimed they hadn't realised and would stop them. We haven't been back to check yet so don't know whether they have. Solicitors have now discovered they've built a shed over the access but claim to have reinstated access around this, but not moved the shed, so access is technically blocked or at the least altered informally. We also noticed on a drive-by that the gate from their house to the road was blocked by rubbish.

I'm also worried that it needs a lot of cosmetic work, I'm not well off and on my own. But I'm really scared to lose this chance to get on the housing ladder.

That said, this house is cheap for a reason, isn't it? I should throw it back and pull out, shouldn't I?

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DrPrunesqualer · 18/08/2025 18:51

You can move the shed yourself

The rubbish has to be taken away as part of the sale agreement. Make sure that’s included as a requirement and include dog poo aswell

tryingtobesogood · 18/08/2025 18:51

Yes. The dogs and the shed would put me off 100%. Then there’s the rubbish.

it’s a buyers market, there will be more houses

MamaElephantMama · 18/08/2025 18:52

I suspect there will be many more issues like this. Listen to your gut and back out.

BlankBlankBlank14 · 18/08/2025 18:54

Yes you should pull out!! It sounds like a nightmare….and is cheap for a reason!

AiryFairyLights · 18/08/2025 18:55

I think what you need to ask yourself is, do you want the aggravation? It sounds like you will have a bit of a battle on your hands - to start with at least.
It can all be sorted, but are you happy to go ahead with that battle?
Do they seem nice enough that you can sort it amicably?
If you feel you can deal with that then don’t pull out.
If however you don’t want the hassle then maybe this isn’t the one for you x
either way only you can really decide x

Jojimoji · 18/08/2025 18:55

Something is ringing alarm bells to you here. Like PP said, listen to your gut.
Could these issues be solved easily or is intuition telling you these are problem neighbours???

HazelHedgehog · 18/08/2025 18:56

Pull out. It is supposed to be something exciting that you are looking forward too, if it does not feel right 100% Pull out. You will find something better.

SnapSnapSnapSnap · 18/08/2025 19:05

parrotywotsit · 18/08/2025 18:48

I've got a bit of a bargain on a house, nothing equivalent will come around this cheap. I'm also at the very bottom of the market - currently renting after a break up.

It's a terrace with access across next door, a path against the house. I went for a follow up viewing and their dogs were using the garden as a toilet - claimed they hadn't realised and would stop them. We haven't been back to check yet so don't know whether they have. Solicitors have now discovered they've built a shed over the access but claim to have reinstated access around this, but not moved the shed, so access is technically blocked or at the least altered informally. We also noticed on a drive-by that the gate from their house to the road was blocked by rubbish.

I'm also worried that it needs a lot of cosmetic work, I'm not well off and on my own. But I'm really scared to lose this chance to get on the housing ladder.

That said, this house is cheap for a reason, isn't it? I should throw it back and pull out, shouldn't I?

If those are the issues you're seeing after only a few minutes viewing, imagine the issues you'll have when you live there full time.
There will be other houses, and you're (presumably) chain free, therefore in a good position. I'd walk away.

LittlleMy · 18/08/2025 19:05

Yes pull out, the benefits of a cheap house will be negated by additional stress by the sounds of it.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 18/08/2025 19:09

I would pull out. I saw a couple of lovely Victorian terraced cottages but was immediately put off by neighbours having right of way through the gardens (often not clear on the particulars). It’s a disaster waiting to happen, same as shared drives, would avoid those too.

parrotywotsit · 18/08/2025 19:26

I think you're probably all right and this isn't going to work out. Bugger.

I need to be rational about this but I am quite upset. I feel like I've spent the last year walking up hill and I'm not sure how many more disappointments I can take. My rented house is awful with dreadful neighbours but buying a house with neighbour issues won't help long term!

There may very well be other houses. The chances of finding another one with a garden is almost non-existent though. Just have to pick myself up though!

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DrPrunesqualer · 18/08/2025 19:34

Why don’t you get a survey done and see if there are any hidden issues.

Being messy doesn’t mean the house is falling down or that there’s necessarily anything wrong at all

My db lived in a property with access adjacent to the rear of the house like yours. Lots of houses are like this, it didn’t bother him or his wife. That’s a personal issue

parrotywotsit · 18/08/2025 20:00

I've had a survey done. The issues are more related to the neighbours being difficult or unpleasant, particularly given that I'll need to walk past their kitchen window regularly.

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Slobberchops1 · 18/08/2025 20:05

Nah if the neighbours are a pain I the arse don’t do it . I know you have horrible neighbours now but at least with rented to can leave with relative short notice , when you buy , you will be stuck for a long time

Owlcat42 · 18/08/2025 20:48

Unfortunately, I would leave it. Building the shed and blocking the gate with rubbish was a deliberate act. Imagine yourself doing that when the house next door was for sale - you just wouldn't do it, no reasonable person would. It's highly likely that they would continue in this vein and spoil your enjoyment of the house.

DrPrunesqualer · 18/08/2025 20:49

I wouldn’t take it if the neighbours are an issue
Life’s too short

Londonrach1 · 18/08/2025 20:51

Don't buy a house where there are neighbour and access issues

Laura95167 · 18/08/2025 20:53

Is the rubbish the shed and the dog mess the sellers or the next door neighbours?

Tollington · 18/08/2025 20:56

My guess is that’s it’s cheap because the seller can’t wait to get the fuck out of there

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 18/08/2025 21:00

HazelHedgehog · 18/08/2025 18:56

Pull out. It is supposed to be something exciting that you are looking forward too, if it does not feel right 100% Pull out. You will find something better.

This is good advice. You haven’t even made the purchase yet and you are having issues, keep looking

swampwitch0 · 18/08/2025 21:08

Pull out

24Dogcuddler · 18/08/2025 21:32

You would end up with rats! Walk away. Run!
There will be another house.

Gagamama2 · 18/08/2025 21:36

those neighbours will be a nightmare. You will feel uneasy in your own house if there’s bad feelings between you from you ordering them to move the shed and clear up their dog shite (albeit rightly so). I can also guarantee they won’t clear up the dog crap long term, even if they make an effort initially. I would pull out. My neighbour has just dropped her asking price by 20% after having her house on the market for 9 months. It’s a buyers market so put in some lowball offers elsewhere and see if anything gets accepted, you might be surprised

BettysRoasties · 18/08/2025 21:39

Never buy next to trampy neighbours. Because that will always be the tip of the iceberg.

I bet they also drink, smoke weed and have loud gatherings and arguments.

Murdoch1949 · 19/08/2025 02:31

You can stipulate to the vendor what things you want doing before you exchange contracts. Your solicitor can list the items in a letter.