Not wanting to bring my husband to the airport

[Anuta77]

So DH travels to his country, Cuba, to visit family for a week, so I'll be staying with our that week with our 7 year old who doesn't have school (school starts right after DH comes back and guess who's making sure that our son has everything ready). I work from home, but it's still hard combining work and the kid. There are no neighbooring kids he can play with and my mom lives over 45 min away, so I'll have to be entertaining him.

So the day before DH leaves, he decided to drive his 22 year old son to the airport, so he will be gone the whole afternoon. For some reason, Cubans we know are unable to pay for a taxi (or even God forbid, take a bus that brings them to the airport) and don't feel bad bothering others to drive them to the airport. Whenever I traveled myself before meeting DH, I either took a bus or paid for a taxi. My mom and sister never ask me to drive them either to or from the airport, so I really don't understand this.

The son lives in another city (45 min away), so DH will drive there, bring the son and his girlfriend to the airport and then come back. That means, I can't even take time for myself before he leaves.

Today, DH announced to me that he counts on me driving him to the airport (before he said that he'll take a taxi). That would be in the afternoon, then I will have to come back during possibly traffic hour, then bring our son to his football practice. I'm not sure that I'll be able to even leave our son with my teenager, so possibly he'll have to be going too. Normally, parking at the airport is difficult (and costly), so it will be like valet parking where some attendant will be kicking us as soon as DH will be out of the car, so not really fun moments with daddy.
All this because he's too cheap to pay for a taxi/uber. I also think it's selfish to ask me for that knowing that he's leaving me alone for a week.
I'm not happy and I told him, now he's upset and says how he can't count on me.
Am I being unreasonable/unloving?

No, you are not. But in some cultures taking someone to the airport is like a ritual. Acknowledge that, but say it is just not practical here.

He's an adult, he's capable of taking the bus. Much easier if he gets an airport bus too.

1. This thread made me think of when Harry met Sally
2. Is taking someone to the airport a Cuban thing?!

I sometimes have to force my husband to let me take him to the airport! It IS a big deal and tiring. I only do it sometimes and it is never expected.

Has he thought of asking his son to collect him and take him ?

So you're supposed to be wfh AND doing childcare AND chauffeuring him?

Our cultures might have it too, but like I said, me, my elderly mom and my sister always just took taxis to the airport (and I have even taken buses to save money). Why? Because we don't think that just to save money, we have to incomodate someone.
But my DH has sons in their 20s and unless someone else is available to drive them (and they travel 2-3 times per year), he goes to drive them. And they live in another city...Why they can not take a bus/taxi is beyond me.

Yes.
If I were free and someone could easily help me with our son, I would have no issue.

Both his sons (whom he drives to the airport) will be gone. But usually they don't take us to the airport.

I would not do it! YANBU

Well you can't. You're at work. (Not sure why you are doing childcare in that case, but a different issue.) And sorry, your sons never do an airport run? Think you've been mugged off for years tbh. Time to set some boundaries.

You can’t take him to the airport and work from home.

You can’t care for your child and work from home.

He needs to take a taxi or public transport to the airport.

You son needs to be in a holiday club playing with other kids.

Why don’t they usually take you if he takes them?

Why can’t the 7 year old go with him when he takes the son to the airport?

Your issue seems to be more about him collecting his sons.

This tends to be in countries which dont have public transport options.

True, if it’s OK for him to accompany the OP to the airport to drop Dad, he should be OK accompanying Dad!

Honestly, we barely travelled in the past years, but we just managed when we had to go. I don't even know if he asked them or just decided that they couldn't. He also doesn't always drive them, they get driven by other people too, which I also don't understand...

He could, but first he goes to his son's place, then to the airport, then back, that's a lot of car sitting.

As your working is there a reason why the 7yold isn't going on holiday with dad??? Sounds like bad planning - if he'd delayed the holiday a week ds would be at school all day. With regards to the airport run - I happily drive dd to the airport.

Just say to him, ffs, you're having a week off, don't make me do any more than I have to!

Where I live it's completely normal to drop family at the airport, so I wouldn't have an issue but it sounds like you feel like you have too much else on if you are trying to work and care for your child at the same time. Why can't the 7 year old go with Dad if he's on holidays from school, wouldn't it be nice for him to also visit his family?

It all sounds a bit dramatic tbh.

The situation in Cuba is bad right now, even Cubans who go there say it and don't recommend going. It's very hot and there are power outages. DH is going to visit his very old aunts. And of course, he's going to visit his friends and some family and our son doesn't speak Spanish. Just doesn't sound like a kid friendly vacation. We're planning on going in the winter.

I think because it was the cheapest option...