My friend has hugely complicated health problems and is registered disabled. Often when we go out I join her as her carer which means I need to be aware of how to give emergency treatment etc. More recently, I supported her by driving her to and from hospital/hospice as her parent was dying - she didn’t feel up to it. And this is where the problems have started - I am now the go-to person to ask. My job is very flexible but her demands on my time have become unreasonable. I’ve told her I do actually need to focus on my work and have started saying no. Funnily enough the appt she has coming up I’ve said no to, as has another friend, and all of a sudden she’s capable of driving herself. So she’s more capable than she lets on.
What I’m struggling with is the guilt I feel for not helping as much! But I’m also furious that I let her ‘needs’ affect my family life and work life. There is so much more I could say about our friendship…. However I need to step back - how do I get over this guilt??