Does anyone else have a bully as a mother

[Cottoncandy1983]

I'm just wondering if anyone else feels that their mother is a bully.....

Ain’t that the truth… literally the only positive thing my mother did for me is die before she became anymore needy and while I was young enough to rebuild my life without being in her shadow.

Where did I say she provides free childcare?

My mother was a massive bully - used physical violence towards me and berated me for years. Told me my husband was a waster and we’d never amount to anything. When he died she refused to attend his funeral because it was too far to travel - 50 miles and my brother was driving her. Didn’t even send a flower.

Then when she needed care she said it was my responsibility to look after her. Right. She hated the care home I found for her and was horrible to the staff. She passed away earlier this year and the feeling of freedom I now have is like a breath of fresh air. I feel no guilt for not looking after her because I accepted a long time ago that she enjoyed being a bully.

now only see her for approximately ten minutes a week (when ushering my children out of her house as quickly as possible) so she now has to fit in a weeks worth of nasty insults into that ten minute slot which is quite a remarkable feat - your hair looks greasy, the children aren't dressed suitably, what were you thinking when you bought those shoes, why did you let DD get her hair cut so short, why are you pulling that daft face at me... etc etc etc. She literally follows me around the house desperately trying to get a reaction. It's almost comical at this point.

Your children are at her house once aweek and you collect them from her.

Regular arrangement when your kids are alone with her in her house to be collected by you. Sounds like child care.

Or you pay her for that?