I am currently on mat leave and feel all effort to see family is made by me. I always go to my parents house to see them and my sister. My sister has had two months off work and hasn’t made the effort to spend any time with me and my child even though I have suggested lots of things to do. My sister has a health condition that means my parents have always (understandably) treated her differently to me but I feel like my parents are more interested in my sister they ask her questions about her life and when I contact them they give me the impression that I am bothering them. My sister and I are very different, she loves to drink and party and is a typical gen z. Loves her pop music and vaping and doesn’t care about anything external to her world. When I talk about my life she is always really argumentative, I am really conservative in nature, I dress really modestly and have lots of opinions on politics, the news etc but even when I talk about simple things she argues and tells me I am wrong and when I provide evidence she won’t accept it and continues to be really negative. She complains constantly, about everything, her back hurts, she is tired, her shoes don’t feel comfortable, she wishes she was still in bed. They are the complaints of a 7 year old yet she is 26. She constantly puts her partner before her family which I know also bothers my mum and dad. My parents defend her constantly for behaviour they never would have let me get away with, she speaks back to them, vapes in their house etc.
my parents constantly show me that my sister is their favourite, they always talk about her too me, even if I am out for the day 121 with one of them they are constantly texting her, they tell me how funny she is and make it clear they would do anything for her. On the other hand they constantly make me feel stupid, I have learning difficulties as well as some other issues that they constantly shame me for in small ways. They let my sister speak to them like rubbish but I can’t even make a joke without getting a lecture. I always contact my parents and go to their house, if I didn’t call my mum I probably wouldn’t speak to her for weeks at a time and if I didn’t speak to my dad it would be months.
they hold me to a completely different standard than my sister.
Now by counter I am not perfect I am well aware but aibu saying I love them but I don’t like them? Do you think taking a bit of break from them would be helpful? Anyone else understand?