To think banning a kid from having ANY sweets at all ever by the age of five

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Is just asking to make them into a future sensation seeking crack addict?

Or is this normal now?

Erm, what do you mean by spice? Do you mean spicy/hot food? Im assuming that your father wasn't drugging you with NPS as a young child, and that's what I associate with 'spice' now.

How has eating spicy food made you hate sugar?

I think my four year old has had sweets maybe twice. Just wouldn’t ever have them in the house for any of us. He had a few dolly mixture at a friends making gingerbread houses and a packet of haribo when given it b a friend at nursery so it’s not banned just not something I would buy him. So I can kind of see how you could get to 5 without having any.

As long as they’re a normal weight with healthy teeth and have mostly balanced and healthy meals I don’t see the issue.

Even yoghurts and sauces and supposed healthier options have loads of sugar and crap in them really so where’s the harm in letting them have some sweets now and then?

Banning all sweets is unrealistic

Yeah, the parent I know who does this has definitely made this decision because of their own issues around food.

Ages ago, but a girl in DD’s year at school was never allowed to go to normal teen parties, etc. - going to e.g. Guides was apparently enough socialising. As a result she used to climb out of windows at night and sneak off, and dd said that eventually, on a mixed camping trip (still teens) she got utterly pissed and ran around the camp saying, ‘Somebody take me! I’m a virgin!’ 😂
(I never heard whether anybody did,)

Spice is a slang word for sweets in some areas.

This isn't just about sweets, it's about forcefully banning things and deluding yourself into thinking that this will be the future status quo. Whether Werther's Original or alcohol or TV, there'll be children counting down the days until they move away.

No always, it is often about medical conditions

This is a pointless thread, as the OP has given no information at all about the circumstances. I know children who's sugar intake has to be extremely well controlled for medical reasons.

What i did with mine, which seemed to work really well, was to keep sweets as an occasional treat and always enough to share with their friends, junk food the same - McDonald's once or twice a year, pudding with a meal - no restriction, until 1 of them took the whole jug of custard! Now young adults who eat well and in moderation. Their friends however - junk food city. But the friends love coming to ours for a meal - protein, a carb and tons of veg - they clear their plates- which is lovely!

I thought it was fairly obvious that’s not what the poster is talking about 😂 what do you reckon people would try and persuade a child with a nut allergy to have some just in case they ended up going mad on nuts at uni?!?

Doable with a first child but too OTT

There are SO many situations when eating sugar is part of society, particularly around the holidays and at birthdays.

I also take huge delight in seeing my child enjoying an ice cream at the beach or some sweets at Halloween.

Life is too short.

This is my niece. Shes never tried sweets, ice cream, cakes, biscuits or anything sugary. She’s only allowed Greek yoghurt, not normal fruity yoghurt.
I think it’s madness.

Parties will be the undoing of this plan.

I didn't give my eldest sweets. Not deliberately, I just don't like them so I don't buy them. She had biscuits and chocolate on occasion, especially Easter and Christmas. It hadnt even occurred to me that she hadnt had things like jelly beans, haribo etc until she went to a birthday party when she was at preschool. We still don't have them often, hut she definitely likes a party bag!

My younger ones were introduced much earlier, due to going to more parties when people had kindly issued a sibling invitation. Probably does make up an unhealthy amount of their diet on weekends when they have been to a party!

Honestly, I don't see how you can avoid them unless you search all party bags before your kids get them.

Oh, and I didn't think to buy sweets for party bags for my twins last birthday (there was cake in the bag though). One of my sons looked at my like i was a mass murderer. This year I am certain they will check with me in advance!

My ds doesn't like cake or sweets. He's so weird. I don't tell him that but I definitely think it as he refuses any he's offered.

As someone with now older teens you could always tell the kids at parties who weren’t normally allowed sweet things as they would always be the ones sitting at the table way after all the other children had got down bingeing on party rings! Fair enough to not having sweets / biscuits at home but if you try and ban completely you make them much more appealing in my opinion.

I wouldn’t give sweeties but that’s more for choking anxiety than anything else! In moderation I let my toddler have a bit of vanilla ice cream, few choc buttons, a taste of cake if anyone’s having one or it’s a birthday.

my parents let us have sweets once a week - a bag of Woolworths pick and mix back when they weighed them on a proper scale - we were experts at getting exactly our £1 worth😂 we had puddings after meals & the occasional ice cream or lolly. They were relaxed with grandparents knowing we would get extra treats when they babysat. All 3 of us have fairly healthy diets now, can all take or leave sweets / chocolates etc. No fillings at 39!

I know a mum who brings home baked goods to parties and her DC are not allowed to eat any party food. Not because of allergies but to ensure it's all organic and not processed. Her dc are either going to go crazy when they get an ounce of freedom or grow up to misunderstand the social nature of food i.e. if you're invited to a party it's a bit rude and snobby to turn up with your organic kale bites. Just eat pombears ffs.

My nephew has never eaten sugary foods. He doesn't know he's missing anything.

Yeah but at a certain point he's going to be like WAIT

IDK I just find the need to control disturbing

My sil avoided giving her ds anything with sugar in as her dp had labelled it as evil due to a family member losing teeth 🙄 Now as adults her sons don’t really speak with them. Her youngest has been in and out of trouble, but now in his twenties, he’s got a steady job, but very little contact with his mum and dad. Posts stuff about having a better dad. The eldest, even though he’s ADHD diagnosed, has kept his parents at a berth and has spoken openly about the odd childhood he had with no sugar/sweet things.

Give them a packet of sweets over hours transfixed on a screen any day of the week

How do parties work? And grandparents and nursery special days?

I did something a bit like that - sweets were just one of the things they could get at any time we were shopping, but if they chose fruit, I'd studiously ignore the fact that it was costing me a tenner instead of under a pound.

They soon worked out they could get far more strawberries, grapes, pineapple, blueberries and the like out of me than sweets.