I’m several years widowed now, and past the stage where people look at me with a tilted head and say “How aaaaarrreee you?”, and seemingly at the stage where everyone thinks I should have a new fella on the scene.
I have a busy work life, a social hobby, a dog, an active social life and a couple of kids which means that I come into contact with a wide variety of people (colleagues, clients, friends, family, teachers, fellow parents, neighbours, dog walkers etc) every day.
I am so regularly asked if I “have a man in my life” that I’ve started to make a sport of it. To everyone who asks, I reply “Not yet, but I feel ready to date now; do you have any eligible bachelors you could set me up with?” So far EVERY SINGLE PERSON has said “no”.
Now I recognise that the definition of “eligible” could be very different, so I tend to follow up the “no” with a “seriously? You genuinely don’t know any single men in their 40s or 50s?” And I tend to get a response like “well, I know Derek and he’s single, but he’s also an alcoholic. Jack has just got out of prison. John is going through his third divorce and apparently has a bit of a porn addiction, Kevin is currently unemployed and sleeping on his mum’s couch, my neighbour Darrell is single, but he has anger issues and I once saw him punch the postman, so I wouldn’t recommend you date him.” Etc.
I am rapidly drawing the conclusion that middle aged “eligible bachelors” no longer exist and am genuinely curious if anyone on here knows any.
For the vote:
YABU: I personally know 100s of eligible bachelors, it must be the circles that you mix in which mean you don’t
YANBU: I don’t personally know any eligible bachelors