To completely ignore 2 faced neighbour?

[picklerosa]

I did get on relatively well with NDN and always thought she was nice.

I had an issue with other neighbours kids constantly trespassing on my property and when I got big fences erected one neighbour had an issue with it and stopped talking too me.

My NDN is very friendly and pally with this neighbour, they are Facebook friends, go round for cuppas etc.

I heard from a friend who lives down the road ( an elderly couple) that my NDN has been slagging me of and talking about me to other neighbours.

Basically siding with this other neighbour (whom I have only engaged with a few times, I just didn’t like her son constantly walking past my windows and playing on my drive).

Since all this my NDN dosent really talk to me as she used too.
Just says “hello” and walks off.
Definitely an atmosphere.

Seeing as she is siding with this other neighbour I don’t want to be doing her any favours.

Having her parcels delivered too me whilst she is at work.

Letting her visitors park in my drive when she has parties.

Collecting her bins when she is at work.

Allowing her to use my green bin so she’s doesn’t have to pay for one.

AIBU to be stopping this?
She isn’t friendly at all anymore and I am not a mug end of the day.
Surely the other neighbour can help her out.

When you see them outside look straight ahead, smile, walk tall and do your business as normal - easy breezy. Wearing headphones when you go out to do the front garden or bring the bin in is also a good trick, I even hum along. You will be fine and I’m sending you lots of good vibes.

We’re much happier now we’ve made a stand, no more feeling put upon or used. Also because we don’t speak to them now they don’t really have any info about us to twist and turn into gossip.

I'm sure there are lots of lovely genuinely nice neighbours out there but the nasty, 2 faced, gossiping, CFs are everywhere and yours and my situation is not at all unique.

@R0setheHat
Thank you so much for your advice and kind words.

The headphones is a very good idea for when I am out gardening, with the kids, doing the bins etc.

At least there will be no more gossiping and eavesdropping on conversations through Ringdoor bells.
I know when it’s one of her kids birthday next month she will be round asking for parking but I won’t bother opening the door to her.

It is awful when you have CF neighbours especially when you have been nice to them and helped them.

I just feel like they are all against me, really hoping to move in next few months anyway.

She's not two-faced though. Two-faced is when they pretend to still be your friend

She's not two-faced though. Two-faced is when they pretend to still be your friend

@Morningsleepin
She was still asking me to do her favours whilst slagging me off.

Using my green bin so she didn’t have to pay for one.

Allowing her visitors to use my drive.

Collecting her bins.

Accepting her parcels.

That is two faced.

They will miss you more than you will miss them! You are the better person here ❤️

@Littlemisscat thank you for your kind words ❤️