Driving to collect DC from ex

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I have 2 children with my ex. They stay at his 2 nights a week.

The arrangement for picking them up was always meeting in a central location in our city that was a 25 min bus ride away for each of us from opposite sides of the city.

I’ve recently got a car however I only have a provisional license, my DP has been teaching me to drive but of course legally I can only drive it if he is in the car with me.

I have now been driving to collect DC from our pick up point and ex has recently started expecting me to drive to his to collect them.

It’s about a 10 minute drive for me to collect them directly from his however things aren’t amicable between us and he’s been very entitled and expectant that I’d collect them. I’ve only done it once.

I declined dropping them off this weekend and said I couldn’t use the car however he then walked past it later on in the city centre and text me asking why my car is parked in town if I can’t drive it.

Yesterday he asked “what time are you getting them from mine” and I replied that I never said I would and his response was “I thought you would” then another message today “what time are you picking them up from mine”

I have two issues: 1.) I need to have DP in the car, they haven’t met and I don’t think it’s fair to expect him to sit in the car whilst I go to exes house, it makes him uncomfortable having to just sit outside in the car and 2.) ex isn’t even asking me if I can do it and just expects it

am I making a big deal out of nothing and should just do it to make everyone’s lives easier or would this annoy you?

To be honest, I'd just do whatever's best for the most important ones in all this.

The kids.

If you can work that out, you're all onto a winner.

Text him your pickups will stay as they have been with kids being picked up centrally.

You should not be driving to his place. He's already getting lazy and expecting favours from you.

Just keep reminding him that you haven’t passed yet so can’t do it consistently yet but after you’ve passed, I’d just do it.
Never give him any more clues into your life

'Hi, just wanted to clear something up - we will still be splitting the drop offs as we were before, that doesnt change now I've got the car' non confrontational, clear. How can he argue?!?