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Caught partner out on a lie ! Several times

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whatabloodylie · 16/08/2025 16:33

Been with partner 15 years, 3 years ago I had an inkling that he was smoking weed something I hugely disagree on especially as we had a child together ! I smelt it on him several times and he denied every time and made me feel like I was abit mad to think it, one evening I searched his car and found a lot of weed a grinder etc I told him I wasn’t prepared to stay with him if that’s what he’s doing especially behind my back ! Anyhow a few days later I found out I was pregnant and gave him the choice me and our baby or weed! He promised he wouldn’t do it or lie again ! This isn’t my issue I do believe that he has stuck to that and hasn’t lied to me about it again! There are no signs of him smoking it either !

here’s my issue - I don’t like being lied to!

mu little girl repeated something his mum said to him and when I asked him about it he said no nothing was said about that ( something to do with sending his nephew a card ) doesn’t matter to me annoys me because they didn’t acknowledge our sons birthday but not sure why he’d lie about it !

then today I had a message from his mum to say “ dp said about a message you deleted “ I asked him again if he’s mentioned a message I deleted to her and he said “ no I’ve not said anything about it “ which he clearly has ! Again I’m not bothered if he’s said anything it’s the fact he’s lied to me about it ! And Petty lies to there’s no need to lie but now I’m wondering what else he lies about!

OP posts:
whatabloodylie · 16/08/2025 16:36

Not really sure what my AIBU is I’m just so frustrated and don’t want to be with a liar

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Boomer55 · 16/08/2025 16:38

What’s with all the exclamation marks?

He said he’s stopped, you think he’s stopped, so not sure what the problem is. 🤷‍♀️

EvenMoreCrisps · 16/08/2025 16:40

I don't really understand what the other lies are, but it's fine to end a relationship at any time if no longer makes your life easier or fun.

Are you financially independent, own your own property?

Lmnop22 · 16/08/2025 16:48

I don’t really understand the second and third alleged lies but it does sound like they both could have just been miscommunications to me.

Not sure anyone never ever lies even white lies and these seem pretty insignificant to me so I think there’s probably more going on to make you unhappy here

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