Would you say anything?

[Canonlythinkofthisone]

Try to keep this brief.
10 years ago, I started seeing a guy, he admitted he had previously slept with one of my close friends. This friend was and is still in a relationship. At the time, I questioned my friend as to why she hadnt said anything and she flat out denied all knowledge. We moved on.
Time has passed and we are still friends although not as close as we once were. I'm no longer with said ex.

She has 2 children, and frequently posts on social media. We occasionally meet as our youngest DC are a similar age.

As time goes on I cannot shake the idea that her eldest is not her DHs. He is in every way shape and form a spit of my now ex.

6 year ago or so when her eldest was 3.5 years old, I ended up working with her DH for several years and we became good friends too.

Part of me wants to say something to her about her eldest. Part of me thinks I should keep my nose firmly out. He may already know, although to my knowledge he never had an inkling of anything untoward all those years ago.

I just can't shake the fact he may be raising a child that isn't biologically is. But he thinks is. (I doubt it would change how he feels about his son tbh, but surely you'd want to know?!) Argh

I'm. questioning motivation too. It just.seems like a malicious thing to do. It will do harm whether or not the allegation is true. Show some consideration for the boy involved -he doesn't need his world turned upside down.

I just can't shake the fact he may be raising a child that isn't biologically is.

Well, it's not a fact because you don't actually know whether or not the eldest is the DH's. Why throw a potential bomb under their marriage for something that may not even be true?! Maybe they were struggling to conceive and she shagged your ex with the go-ahead from DH? Maybe she actually didn't shag your ex and he was talking nonsense for some reason?

You don't know.

Not your circus not your monkeys. Stay out!!

Youre playing at Miss Marple. Absolutely mind your own business and leave this family alone

1. You are believing an ex boyfriend over your friend
2. You dont know your friend ever cheated
3. You dont this child isnt her husbands
4. You dont know, even if child isnt friends husbands baby. That her husband doesn't know and hasnt decided to raise child regardless

So absolutely keep your poisonous suspicions to yourself

Keep your beak well out!

This.

Your friend at the time totally denied the accusation of cheating - why do you believe the ex over her?

Part of me thinks I should keep my nose firmly out.

Only part of you? 🤣🤣🤣

Dear God.

My reading it was that it was clear from the how the child looks. Some children are the spit of their parents.

If it’s simply the child has lighter hair than its siblings then no I wouldn’t.

Exactly this !!!!!
Give your head a wobble ..
Jesus, why would you cause such devastation on a hunch ???
And even if you were right , Do you realise the unhappiness you would cause ..