My MiL used to be like this when I was first with DH. It was really weird, for example, we’d mentioned we were going to buy a sofa and she’d say, ‘oh you don’t want a sofa like that, how about one of these?’ And then would bombard us with photos of sofas that she thought we should have instead. She tried to give advice about, and get involved in, any decision or purchase that she heard about.
She even did it when we were buying our dream house. Kept suggesting bizarre alternatives when she doesn’t know/live in the part of the country we live in. Like a new build flat in the entirely opposite part of the city to where we were halfway through purchasing a Victorian house with a garden and driveway.
And she hasn’t contributed financially to any aspect of our lives, so it’s not like it has affected her in any way.
DH’s parents would seem really put out and affronted when I insisted that we would be making the choices that we wanted. Years later, they still say ‘oh no point giving Goat advice, she always does exactly what she thinks is best’. They act as if they just want to be super helpful and I’m a bizarre, overly independent, feisty person that insists on doing things my own way to be difficult.
I’ve since realised she controls her own daughter and her husband in this way…and that she used to control DH like that before we met. They’ve been told which house to buy and where….and they’ve done it.
The weird thing is, she’s a nice, unassuming, quiet person. She doesn’t seem controlling or opinionated at all.
Anyway, my point is that I would nip this in the bud and refuse/return the pram. She’ll soon get the message that you are capable of having your own thoughts and ideas about how you raise your child.