To think most people marry for convenience, not love?

[BluntMintSeer]

When you look closely, so many marriages seem to be about money, security, kids, or just not wanting to be alone. Love might be there at the start but AIBU to think convenience is what really holds most marriages together?

Some marriages are like some wines, they get better with time.

Sone need to be drunk straight away

We are still giggling and flirting like honeymooners (nearly 20 decades in) long may it continue, what’s the fucking point otherwise?

Laughter beats an en-suite any day of the week!

I think a lot of women have to, or they'd be giving away a lot in IHT rather than being able to pass it to their kids.

Marriage or long term relationships go through many stages. Some stages are harder work than others. Having gone through the kids stage which was the hardest part we now have grown up children and a couple of grandchildren. Life hasn't gone back to like it was pre kids but we are finding each other again if that makes sense. We spend more time together although some of that is in comfortable quiet, happy to be in the same room but doing separate activities. We don't need to be constantly talking or going on dates. We have mutual and separate friends and spend time with both. We enjoy each others company, we both know how the other one thinks and feels. It may look like convenience or security from the outside but the love is still there it has just evolved into a different form.

I was hopelessly in love with my husband when we got married. We met in our early 30s and married about 18 months after we met. We had 2 kids in 3 years, moved house, changed jobs, and went through dreadful times losing parents etc.

We've only been married 11 years so I know we have a long way to go, but I am even more in love today than I was when we married. I'm in love now because I admire him so much for the man he is, kind, thoughtful, considerate of all, hardworking, putting family before himself, curious, driven to learn and try new things. He is my rock and my joy. Watching him be a Daddy is incredible.

He is also a huge fan of ridiulous old tv shows and the worst dad jokes in the world. He can over think things and sometimes is so relaxed he's almost horizontal. But no one's perfect right? 😆

No, I think most people get married for love, and because they feel that they want to spend the rest of their lives with that person.

I love this and couldn’t agree more.