To not know what to do with myself

[Jeweltool]

Until Monday,I had been in a long distance relationship.Looking back,he wasn't a good person,lying when caught out and the reason we broke up was that I found he had been on dating apps.
I know he is bad for me,and I think I miss the thought of him in my head more than the actual person if that makes sense,but I just feel really down and lonely.I haven't messaged him at all,and I won't.I just think the weekend is going to be long and boring and I don't know how to fill it.I think I miss the constant WhatsApp messages from him and it's just a gap maybe?

Yes, it will take a while to adjust to being without the constant cycle of message, wait response, message again, updating him on your day etc. For a while it will feel like something is missing, even when you're busy, because you're not going to be sending him a photo or telling him your funny story. It will however pass. And in the meantime you can either message other people or post here when you've the urge to, or go the other way and limit your phone use by doing things that would make messaging difficult. Getting out, seeing people, walking, swimming, gym, cinema etc.

Yes that makes sense.Tbh I think I lost myself a bit,got caught up in him and basing my life around him,when really I think it was all just based on a lie.Think I need to just think of ways to fill my time x

Are there other people in your life that you could reach out to?

Yh I do have friends and family.I think I just put all my focus on this man for the past year and now it's ended just feel completely lost.On the positive side,I haven't messaged him or wanted to,and I know it's all for the best.Think I had let my social life completely slide cos I was working all week and then seeing him most weekends and that was taking up all my time.Now I'm on my own again,I suppose I'm just looking for something to fill that gap,feel a bit less lonely maube

I'd try reading out to friends or family that you are close to if it's the messaging you miss. It could help to re-learn what a healthy relationship feels like.

It’s the dopamine hit you’ll miss. Try and be very busy. Ideally if you could help other people would take you out of the funk in my experience. I follow dad hugs for the soul on insta and it’s really helpful as are some other accounts on there. Work on yourself to be the best you you can. Remember all the times you’ve felt broken hearted and how now you feel nothing for the supposedly godlike individuals you pined for. This time will come for this one too. The longest journey is from the head to the heart with this stuff. You can know with your brain someone is bad for you but it takes a while for your nervous system to catch on.