To be worried that someone into the supernatural and mystic parts of life has cast some sort of spell?

[Henrrtu]

I know this sounds crazy and while I have always had a mild interest in those who can predict the future, I have never been worried about it as such.

However I recently went online and asked a clairvoyant sort of person what my future held as I felt I had made mistakes and been a bit of a crap parent and crap friend. I’ve chosen to do some shitty things. Their response was very clear, that bad things were coming and that was what karma was and that I wouldn’t get far in life now. I can’t stop thinking about it and since then some bad stuff has happened like I dropped a glass vase this morning which shattered everywhere, the bin outside is infested with flies and it never is (I hate flies and I am almost scared of them), I have picked up a cold in the last few days which is unfortunate as tomorrow I am supposed to be out with a friend I haven’t seen in years. I feel like this woman has made these things happen. I know it sounds crazy I just can’t shake the feeling. I guess I’m posting for some sort of rationale or what I can do to change something like this if she has done something to me.

I have a cold, we have flies in our bin as it’s hot, and my husband dropped 2 expensive glasses yesterday. Was that because we’re cursed too?

No, these things happen to everyone and you are just ascribing them to a spell cast by this charlatan.

Expect a message sometime soon saying she senses someone has cursed you but she can lift the curse for 💰 💰.

That's how these swindlers make their money - they get superstitious, gullible or desperate people rattled then put the squeeze on. Sweep up the glass, take some Lem-Sip and give it not one more thought.

@ChaToilLeam @TheFlis thanks. It’s so hard not to overthink this as anything bad that happens I just link to this.

Don't take notice of clairvoyants from the internet.Negative things will happen if you speak about your life negatively.Try and ghink of all the positive things you have going gor you?
Be a better perdon friend from now on.
Play the Shurangama mantra in your home.
Have a fantastic life.

the Human brain is amazing in that it will make up stories to explain everything rather than accept we have a very limited control over what happens to us.

can you list three good things that have happened this week, however small - why don’t you think those things happening are supernatural ( I don’t think I’ve ever typed that word before) rather than just things?

Give your bin a good clean out!!!

It's all bollocks.

The person you spoke to can no more see the future than I can find a reliable window cleaner.

@TorroFerney yes, there was no traffic, my child was easy to dress this morning for a change and it’s nice weather. Thanks for explaining that about the brain, I wonder if I’ve now got into a trap of seeing the worst and looking for it

It’s just your brain blaming perfectly ordinary daily life stuff on a made up curse. Honesty, the woman is a charlatan. Don’t give it another thought, waste of brain space.

That’s exactly what has happened - you are now focusing on the bad stuff and ignoring the good stuff.

For the next week when you go to bed list three good things that have happened that day (and that can be as simple as a lovely cup of coffee or listening to your favourite song). That will get you into the habit of looking for good things instead of bad.

This is EXACTLY what has happened and well done for figuring it out.

People ascribe all sorts of things to the supernatural which are just what's going on in our brains. Our brains are remarkable things, looking to find shortcuts and seek patterns. As a result, they like to ascribe meaning and purpose to random coincidences.

What you’ve described (dropping the vase and flies in the bin) aren’t karma. They’re just one of those things. If karma is coming for you it’ll be bigger than that. HTH

I do believe in the supernatural to an extent, I think there’s a lot we don’t understand about the world and our brains. I don’t, however, think you have been cursed. I think you’ve been told to expect this cosmic payback (I presume you told them about the bad things you’ve done so that is why they told you to expect karma to come knocking) so you now have it in your head and any bad thing that happens you see as proof they were right. Even if it turns out this is your karma, why would this person have cast a hex on you? You didn’t do anything to them.

So it’s either you’re looking for the bad or it’s genuine karma - I cannot see why you would have been cursed. I suspect it’s the former - it’s a bit like when you get a new car - you suddenly start seeing that model everywhere. It’s not that everyone’s suddenly gone out and bought them, it’s that your brain is suddenly looking out for them.

Unlike the majority of vipers on here, I know that there are such things… which is why I also know categorically that no one has cast any spells or cursed you.
Why on earth would they?

No one randomly sends out magical energy to strangers just for shits and giggles, it takes a great deal of effort and possible blowback.

I suggest you concentrate instead on more positive thoughts.
If you feel the need, you could perform a small ritual yourself, for example mentally sweep each room in the house, visualising all negative energies as brown smoke, which then exits via a window. Likewise in the garden and sweep it all out of the gate.
Then mentally sprinkle something like sunbeams or flower petals everywhere, visualising positive feelings in all areas of the house.

Then have a nice cup of tea and get on with having a great life.

If you think about it logically, if she had the sort of power that you’re attributing to her, would she really be working on some kind of on line chat? If it’s even a real person and not AI. The people who run these lines advertise for phone operators in the same places that they advertise for sex chat lines. She’s going to be either a student or someone fitting in a few hours around the school run. She was obviously feeling a bit spiteful that day and decided to take it out on you. Or, it’s a computer who has given you a response based on information it has been fed.

You dropped a vase because there is not a person in the world who won’t drop something at some point. Your bins have got flies because you’ve put something a bit stinky in there, it’s hot weather and it needs a clean. You’ve got a cold because you go outside and interact with other people. This is all normal stuff. These aren’t bad things. They’re just part of every day life. Nobody has a life that doesn’t contain some minor irritants here and there. You wouldn’t give them a second thought if you hadn’t had that ‘reading’.

Also, if Karma was a thing and was really coming to get you, would it really seek revenge on you for all of the terrible wrongs you have done by putting flies in your bin? 😂 I mean, it’s quite low level for an all seeing, all knowing, malevolent force. What will it do next? Make a seagull poo on your window? Turn your bananas overly ripe before you can eat them?

Try and mock the whole thing and you’ll see it for the silliness it is.

If you just buy into it for a minute, you don't have to accept the spell/curse. That stupid pound-shop Ursula doesn't get to tell you what's what! Create your own spell with a mantra like 'I am a worthwhile person and I will triumph' or something. You are more powerful than she!!

47 votes so far and 100% YABU, OP. That's because spells and clairvoyance aren't real.

That person alleging to be an online clairvoyant is a scammer. Just block them and don't try and use anyone else similar.

It's all nonsense I'm afraid. They take in the vulnerable and manipulate them and probably extract money off them.

Flies in the bin is normal in summer. Just clean it out with bleach and use fly spray.

Dropping a vase is just an accident. Just be more careful next time.

Please stop thinking about this stuff. It won't help at all.

Yes, it’s crazy.

I wouldn’t take any notice of a face to face “spiritualist”. Online? No bloody chance.

Well let us know if this person gets in touch again soon offering to lift the "curse" - for a fee. I believe that's usually how it goes.

If you've done things you regret, do what you can to make amends and learn your lessons and resolve to be better in future. You don't need any online scammers to tell you how to do that. Take control of your own life and responsibility for your own choices, and don't let guilt make you an easy mark for charlatans.

You'll be doing alright if that's the worse karma you're getting.

She's obviously a charlatan and you should pay her no more attention. But it sounds like you feel guilty about your past actions and that is probably feeding your anxiety about this.

Is there anything you can do to make things right with the people you say you've hurt? As PP said, learn your lessons and try to do differently in the future.

You could speak to a doctor about this, sounds like anxiety getting a bit out of control and definitely something medication would help.

Your bin has flies because it’s August and there’s a heatwave. Mine has flies too. Spray some fly spray in it.