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Not inviting step grandparents to an event.

29 replies

Easepieohmy · 14/08/2025 21:14

A child has their school leaving assembly which is open to all friends and family.
The child's step grandparents aren't invited, but the child's grandparents are. The step grandparents have ensured step grandchild is treated no differently to their grandchildren, in terms of holidays, presents, family events, financial gifts and time spent together.
Are step grandparents right to feel aggrieved they weren't invited.

OP posts:
Mugon · 14/08/2025 23:45

If there's a limit on tickets, how would you/they want them distributed?

Praying4Peace · 14/08/2025 23:46

OSTMusTisNT · 14/08/2025 22:12

I'm a step grandparent and always include all the kids equally but know I'm always going to be an extra 'brucie bonus' and when it comes to events I know I'm at the back of the queue compared to blood Grandparents.

As long as the kids have fond memories of me when I'm long gone I'm happy to take a quiet backseat role in the knowledge that there is no malice intended and navigating multi generational step families is complicated and you can't please everyone all the time.

Lovely post and you are a wonderful step GP, always considering the best interests of the children

Praying4Peace · 14/08/2025 23:48

Robin67 · 14/08/2025 21:43

Yes. That is not fair, how they have been treated

Ditto

Bellyblueboy · 15/08/2025 00:10

Easepieohmy · 14/08/2025 21:14

A child has their school leaving assembly which is open to all friends and family.
The child's step grandparents aren't invited, but the child's grandparents are. The step grandparents have ensured step grandchild is treated no differently to their grandchildren, in terms of holidays, presents, family events, financial gifts and time spent together.
Are step grandparents right to feel aggrieved they weren't invited.

I am just trying to imagine my parents in this situation. My brother in law and sister break up. He remarries. School event comes up. He rocks up with his second wife and her parents, as well as his parents. Her parents announce they are just as much my nephew’s grandparents as his existing set of four and must be given equal status?

I would actually pay to see my mother’s reaction to that one😂😂.

maybe that’s why an invitation wasn’t forthcoming - sensitivities of existing grandparents. Sensitivities of other parent who doesn’t want to share child event with ex’s new partners parents?

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