Ex partner baby

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Please can someone tell me that I'm being an idiot for getting upset about this - my ex left me for someone else when I was about 8 months pregnant with his child. This was about 6 years ago and we've heard nothing from him since, he stayed in a relationship with this woman and has made no contact at all with me or the child. Child has never even laid eyes on him.
I randomly found out at the weekend that his partner is pregnant and he's being congratulated on his "first child, etc. For some reason, despite all the years that have past, this really upset me...to the point that I've actually taken a few days off work! Like I said, he just up and left as soon as he met this woman and, although he lives 5 minutes away from us, has never made contact... so why is this upsetting me so much? Has anyone been through this? Am I stupid for letting this bother me to this extent?

My ex husband has 2 children with me, he walked out when they were 2 and a half and 3 months old. Never seen again. He has 2 further children, two different women, both babies have been called his first 🙄 he never told them about his others. The eldest of the two is now 9, he has no contact and the youngest is just 1 year old, stopped seeing that one too. I only know this as they both eventually figured it out and made contact with me.

It's hard and it's shitty. Don't be hard on yourself. It gets easier

Did you randomly find this out on social media, by any chance? Block him so you can’t look.

@OnlyMabelInTheBuilding it was but it was through a work friends page (she was making cakes for the womans baby shower...she didn't know who she was), so i had a look at her page...silly i know but my nose got the better of me. He's already blocked on everything.

@glassof thank you for your reply. Its crazy to me that guys can have kids, leave and never even think of them again. I'm sorry you've had to go through that.

You aren't stupid, you are sad for the father that your ex should have been for your dc. My sister went through the same. I hope he is being stung for maintenance at least.

Aah I think its entirely normal to be upset in your circumstances. You should cut yourself some slack!

I hope you’re claiming child support from him.

Saying first child seems needlessly cruel

I'd be tempted to make a comment along the lines of "congratulations on your second first child, the first first child is doing well thanks, when do you intend to start paying child support, it's been 6 years".

But at my father's funeral they wittered on about how his two daughters were there- he had three daughters in attendance, and they knew in advance I was going to be there so I may think that men who do this are fuckwits who need to be reminded of their responsibilities.

He’s awful and so are his family commenting that if they know. I’m really sorry. For what it’s worth, my ex was the second and acknowledged child in a similar situation and he always says his older half brother had a lucky escape as his dad was so awful growing up.