Opinions on plus 1s

[Applesgrapes]

Hey everyone, just wanted opinions really.
My family are doing a christening dinner in a month and Im helping organise.
There's a budget etc and guest list.
One of the perspective God Parents wants to bring along a new partner that none of us know and my sister has asked my opinion. She doesn't want to say no but obviously we are trying not to allow too many plus 1s to keep cost down. I also think that may not be the best time to bring a stranger to meet everyone, the person may feel left out or side lined when everyone else is chatting etc.
Just want opinions so I can give my sister an impartial answer.
Thanks in advance!

If this is someone close enough to be a godparent then presumably they’re also somebody your sister would feel comfortable expressing her reservations to, or at least feel able to ask to meet the partner first - or should be. Why not suggest that? The godparent and, potentially, the partner, will be very important in her child’s life, and is somebody whose judgement I imagine your sister has good regard for: asking for a social pre-meet with somebody they feel may be important in theirs is a nice gesture.

I vote for plus one.

Thanks @ComtesseDeSpair that is a really good idea to do a pre meet! At least that way everyone will be more comfortable. 😊

Of course she should be invited

It’s the perfect occassion to meet a plus one that’s getting more serious, especially if the godparent is a family member? If the cost is a worry could you ask the godparent to cover it? If you’re self catering (like preparing your own buffet) I’d just absorb the cost.

It’s not really a plus one though is it? It’s inviting someone in a relationship. Unless they just met the person a couple weeks ago I’d invite them.

We've arranged with a local restaurant we know to cater which is why we were trying to be strict.
It is from the sounds of it a new relationship. Of course if they were a known partner the invite would have been extended to them also.
I'll chat with my sister and try work it out.
Thanks

How long has the godparent been with the plus one? I’d definitely suggest a meet up first.
Is it a buffet type food you’re preparing or buying a whole meal in a pub situation? If a buffet is absorb the cost, if buying a whole meal you can suggest that the plus one can come but that godmother pays the extra cost.

I think it's the perfect time to meet everyone and join in with the chat.

But as someone else is paying for it, that kind of puts a different light on it.

So I think it'd boil down to cost really.

We are paying for the food (whole meal)
Cost is definitely a big factor as sometimes, one person brings a plus 1 not factored in and then others do the same, this is what we were trying to avoid.

You’re under no obligation to treat everyone the same!

‘Oh sorry, no more plus ones, we made an exception seeing as it’s the godparent’s partner’