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Original poster

Found out a bullying senior manager at work has been telling lies about me behind my back

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Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 22:27

She is being vindictive because I didn't do something she wanted me to do (I didn't do it for good reason).

How do I wreak revenge?

(Workplace is unionised so I could just do a grievance but I'd rather something with more flair)

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Moonrisekingdom12 · 13/08/2025 22:30

I’ve no idea if this is the case, but from the title my mind jumped straight to the NHS / nursing 🥲

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Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 22:31

Moonrisekingdom12 · 13/08/2025 22:30

I’ve no idea if this is the case, but from the title my mind jumped straight to the NHS / nursing 🥲

No scalpels to hand to be clear

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Newname71 · 13/08/2025 22:33

I usually go straight for the jugular and tackle them head on about their lies.
with an audience for good measure.

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Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 22:34

Newname71 · 13/08/2025 22:33

I usually go straight for the jugular and tackle them head on about their lies.
with an audience for good measure.

This is definitely an option. She (obviously because these folks are all the same) doesn't just bully me but everyone else she has done it too has silently moved on. I'm not embarrassed to make a giant, setting everything else out scene.

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beelegal · 13/08/2025 22:45

Revenge? How old are you? It’s a workplace not a bully playground.

Avocadocream · 13/08/2025 22:47

I’d grow up tbh

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Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 23:05

beelegal · 13/08/2025 22:45

Revenge? How old are you? It’s a workplace not a bully playground.

Yeah it is a bully's playground she's been doing this unchecked for years. Enough.

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FormidableAnt · 14/08/2025 03:58

Get all your ducks in a row first, make sure there is no way she can squirm through a hole and escape. It is not remotely unreasonable for you to strike back when someone is using their power and position to bully others, and is lying to control the narrative. I think you're brave. Let us know how it goes.

beelegal · 14/08/2025 06:58

Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 23:05

Yeah it is a bully's playground she's been doing this unchecked for years. Enough.

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Grow up. Wow.

ScaryM0nster · 14/08/2025 07:01

Soaking a chair you know they’re going to use is a good locker room level one. So they have a wet bum all day.

Beautifully clear notes so you know you’re rock solid, then calling out the lies in front of a suitable audience is another.

But sadly, for these people, a slam dunk written grievance is probably the way to go. Anything else puts you at more risk than them.

florizel13 · 14/08/2025 07:34

Fragmentedbrain · 13/08/2025 22:27

She is being vindictive because I didn't do something she wanted me to do (I didn't do it for good reason).

How do I wreak revenge?

(Workplace is unionised so I could just do a grievance but I'd rather something with more flair)

Without reading beyond the OP....this has to be NHS!

Camera17 · 14/08/2025 07:49

Go for it. Call it out. Clearly and calmly. “That’s not true is it” or “what you actually said was”…

Diarygirlqueen · 14/08/2025 08:15

Make sure there's no comeback for you and get your ducks in a row.
I'm one of them people that let it go quietly, I'm not assertive and weak. I admire people like you, stand up to her on behalf of people like me.

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