To say 12 hours of gaming a day isn’t normal?

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DH and I have booked a week off together to spend time together. Nothing massive, just both busy at work so occasional days out etc.

Hes always gaming. He will play on it after work, which is fine. He’s not been working this week so staying up til about 4am playing games. Today we had nothing planned so he’s played from around 10am this morning until now.

This has been the pattern for the last 2 days - when we actually went out on Monday he said when we got back at 5pm “I’m on the game all night tonight because we went out today” and spent all night on it.

aibu to say this isn’t right in a marriage?

No I don't think that's normal, sounds like a addiction and not healthy. Do you have kids? If not I would definitely be wary about having them with him.

I’d find this really unattractive to be honest. Like being with a teenager.

I do find it unattractive. I’ve been called controlling for saying I feel unimportant and not prioritised.

I once played 24hrs straight. Wish someone told me to stop. It’s not healthy for him or anyone in the household. That was when i was a teen. Adults have things to do people to see! It’s not healthy for anyone really or your relationship

Depends really. It's his hobby. If he normally has it under control and is choosing to let loose with it for a couple of days of his annual leave, I don't think that's a problem.

If on the other hand he promised you couple time this week, or if it's intruding on your life together at other times as well, then I think that is a problem.

Speaking from long term experience it is a time consuming hobby with some games requiring daily time investment to keep up with tasks

The way to deal with this is to go off and do things yourself with friends eg lunches, dinner dates,
He will soon notice that you aren't sitting about waiting for him to put the controller down

I'm a big gaming fan and could easily lose 10-12 hours a day gaming rather than watching tv, scrolling on my phone etc. If I had a free, no-kids/DH day then that's likely how I would spend it, however you're not unreasonable to ask for some more meaningful time together.