To say no to aunt coming to visit?

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Had arranged for aunt to come and visit on Tuesday (my day off). Then her plans changed so she couldn’t make it so said how about Sunday?

Sunday works. Now she has text to say her plans with her friends got moved, could I do Friday instead. I am working (from home) on the Friday. My good friend is staying overnight with us on the Friday and we’re going for dinner.

Sure my aunt could pop in or even join us but AIBU to say no?

Of course you can say no! Why would you think you couldn't?

YANBU, too much faffing around unless shes your favourite aunt.

Sorry you already gave other plans. How about next week/month?

Why wouldn’t you say it doesn’t suit? Just reschedule a new time that suits you both.

If you were working in an office would she turn up there? I work from home permanently, I can’t have people dropping in (I generally don’t take a lunch as I need the time for childcare pick ups).

Arrange a time that suits you both so that you and your aunt can enjoy the visit.

I clicked YABU because I can’t believe you need help saying ‘Friday won’t work as I am working during the day and have plans on the evening. How about the following Sunday? Looking forward to catching up. Xxx

I send texts like this day in day out arranging play dates, lunches with friends, meetings at work, family events etc.

Dear FA.
Sorry I can't see you Friday. Let's arrange another day soon.
Xxx

Nope, YANBU. Changing plans three times in one week to accommodate one person is a bit of a piss take tbh! You have your own plans to factor in. Just say ‘The Tuesday or Sunday we planned both still work but I have other commitments on Friday so I can’t do then. Let’s reschedule or stick to one of the initial days which worked. What do you want to do?’

It's really weird that you have to ask if you can say no to a visit that doesn't work for you.

Working from home is working. Of course you can't have visitors. Would she just come to your workplace and hang out?

You've already rearranged twice and can't do this one. Tell her to get back to you another time when you can both be off and meet.

So its ok for her to change plans several times to suit herself but not for you to do the same???

Do you think we should all say- well you need to take annual leave from work on Friday and cancel having your friend over- just to accommodate aunt that has changed her plans multiple times? 😕

Just say sorry you are working and have got plans for the evening, let’s do another day.

Weird post, just say no surely?

My aunt is visiting from Turkey. She is only in the UK once or twice a year.

She’s the one who’s changed plans so tough on her, she can’t come on Friday, you’re wfh.