Mum in hospital/trip away

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So my mum has been in hospital and will remain in over the weekend as they are unsure what is going on.
This has meant prior plans we had with extended family have been put on hold for the time being.
My husband instead wants to use this weekend for a trip away but we already have a holiday coming up start of sept so I think we should just wait, and part of that is simply because I just want to remain close by incase things deterioriate.
This has resulted in husband getting cross at me because he reckons I can't do anything anyway and so we just use the time to go away. If we had something prebooked this weekend, I would go on ahead (provided mum stays stable) but I think its a bit shitty to book trip away at this stage given the situation when nothing had been booked before?
So AIBU?

Happy medium? Go somewhere local so you can get back if necessary but not waste a free weekend. I kind of agree with your husband, he's not being unreasonable. There's nothing you can do whilst she's in hospital and she's in the best possible place. I hope she is ok.

Depends really how unwell your mum is and whether or not anyone else will visit if you go away?

YANBU and your husband is being a dick. Tell him he can go wherever he likes but you're staying at home. No way would I be booking a trip if my mum was in hospital.

He is being unreasonable

It depends how ill she is, and where she is? IMO, people are ok in hospital, if they can look after themselves or have a high nurse ratio.

What if the hospital food is disgusting and she won’t eat it? She may need family there to get her some better food? Sometimes, nurses leave food out of reach of people, who can’t reach/feed themselves - they need help from relatives?

Ditto toileting, etc.

I wouldn’t go away and leave either of my DDs for instance in hospital for the weekend. Both refuse hospital food!

are you providing a high level of care for your mum at home? I ask because your husband’s reaction sounds a bit like carers stress.
but really, I would think you would want to be there visiting over the weekend. Hospitals are horribly stretched and regular visits from family can make a huge difference esp if she’s at risk of confusion

I think the opposite. When mine was in hospital it set me free from all caring duties and I was able to relax a bit and I did indeed take more than one small trip away during the months she was in.

Given that they are keeping her instead of discharging her and still don't know what's up would mean I would probably not go on a holiday. She might need food brought in or things from home if she didn't have time to get a bag of supplies together. It does depend a bit on what diagnoses they're looking at though.

Your husband is being unreasonable. Would he go on holiday if it was his mom in the hospital and you were bugging him for a trip when you already have one booked for next month?

If it was already booked, and she was stable, then I might go however I absolutely would not book something new. Your mum will be on your mind anyway and you likely won't enjoy it much. Your husband is being quite selfish IMO.

Could a happy medium be local days out, nice meal etc instead?

Thank you so much for all your answers - just a bit more to add, in terms of going away locally that could work but my family have a large farm so at times like this it tends to be all hands on deck to keep things ticking over.
My mum hasnt been well for years, so while i havent necessarily been caring for her so just have some extra needs.
In regards to why she is in hospital currently; they still havent found out what is wrong. She hasnt been allowed to eat from Tuesday so think they are anticipating surgery but she is really unwell and its very fustrating that we are no further forward.
Husband is still pissed off with me, hardly speaking, not returning phonecalls or texts when away with the kids and has not asked once how my mum is or how i am coping - yet still expected sex last night. I just want to feel like i have someone in my corner and right now it feels pretty lonely