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MIL always takes photos of GC when visiting. One or two photos fine but it feels like anything we do she has her phone out taking photos and not just of GC, its obvious that DH and I are included in some too. I try to move out the way sometimes but it doesn't seem to discourage efforts. MIL was visiting recently and also took general photos of our garden and house, which made me feel really uncomfortable. Is this normal? Am i odd that i dont want people taking photos of me unless i agreed to it or im standing obviously smiling for a photo. DH agrees its odd but wants me to either drop it or say something myself.

I fear this is commonplace in society these days. My friends do this everywhere we go and at each others houses. I dislike it but don’t say anything 😬

It’s a bit odd isn’t it. Does she post it to social media or just for herself? Still weird but I’ve experienced similar with my dad and it’s weird!

He takes pictures of us when we don’t realise and we are just talking. Like me and my mum sitting on the sofa chatting sometimes drinking and eating 🙈 It gets worse, sometimes he then posts said unflattering photos on Facebook, like it’s normal! I tell him not to, I tell him to take them down and he gets huffy. If I spot he’s taken a picture I say don’t put that on Facebook. He gets all defensive and says ofcourse I won’t (as though he’s never done it before). Sometimes he still then posts them and I’m like 😡 is there something wrong with ur brain!

@tedibear no, none of the photos go on SM. MIL is very interested in what we have though so I imagine she will show the photos of our house to her friends or potentially send on WhatsApp. I doubt the photos with me in them will be shared - but its the principle, it makes me feel so uncomfortable. If it was my own parent i would ask them to stop taking photos but with it being in laws i dont want to rock the boat.

well some photo's are so lovely that a person may wish to share them with spouse (look at the great gazebo) or inspiration (i like the flower boarder i would like to do the same next year) or the grandkids for showing friends at coffee (look how my eldest granddaughter has grown).
you don't want to be included, i'm sure your mil is fine with that.
man people are weird sorry but me and all my friends take and share photo's just for conversation sake and yes complimentary conversation sake.

@BreakingBroken mil is divorced so no spouse. I just cant imagine going into someone's house and taking photos of their rooms or garden without saying 'I really like x, do you mind if I take a photo?' Or failing that I would be a bit more discrete than standing with my phone pointing at all corners of the room.

I had a relative that took a photo of me a while ago. Then denied it. When I clearly was stading there. Quite up close to.
I stupidly believed it then found it they had sent to my Mum and said dont tell her..
I was fuming. I then took a few unflattering pics of them the following week just for myself lol.
Instead of getting angry I calming said its fine I just won't come to family events or round your house anymore..
Its a trust thing!

It was a horrible photo imo. At least pose for one and it be from a distance.

What she’s doing seems harmless and not something which should bother you.

My father in law does this. It drives me nuts. He is also a fairly awful photographer.

He emails them around to everyone after the event and I’m always reassured to see most people looking at the camera in the same way as me. (Expressions read, “what the heck is he doing?”)

Brother in law was also bad for doing this, but his sister pulled him up on it when he started taking photos of her kid on his phone. She took one for the team.

It’s normal here- I think odd is a bit of an overstatement! I’d say try not to step out of too many photos, it’s nice she wants pictures of you all, I’ve very few pictures of some of my relatives as they step out of them, but then you don’t have the same feeling of capturing occasions. Also I’ve two relatives who have died who were in practically no photos and I find it a pity

Some people like to do it, so it means they aren't in the photos themselves!
Also a control and power thing...
But it makes me not be able to relax as ive never liked having pics taken.
So even when I was young and not one thing wrong with me. .
I think the difference was 20 years plus back was even tho people took photos it was generally just one and everyone stood up or whatever and took a few moments to prepare.
Now it's just snap snap snap. Then the cameras zoom into everything and see everything.