My mum messages my husband to try and influence him about our decisions with buying a home, our daughter etc and tells him not to tell me. She knows I would be annoyed and I've asked her not to interfere so much before. I have a good relationship with my mum and she spends time with our baby girl whenever she likes etc. I just feel like it's inappropriate and controlling for her to do this. She has a history of trying to influence our every choice and I would like her to just step back and enjoy being a grandparent rather than constantly trying to influence our decisions.