Feeling upset by my funding my sister's home purchase

[RR2060]

I am living in a joint family where I live with my wife and kids with my parents. The home is owned by them. It is common in my country. I take care of the house expenses electricity but I separately pay my parents which you can say is in lieu of rent. My sister is older than me and married and has kids and lives separately and does not even live with her in-laws. She has often received gifts from my parents and other members of the family whereas, I being a son have to keep gifting people. Recently, my father funded my sister's purchase of residential home and that has really upset me as I have never had that kind of a windfall from them. My parents tell me that the present home and other assets are for me, but I honestly feel that it is all just talk as it all depends on their wish. There is nothing in the present and just talks about a distant future. Am I wrong to feel upset?

Hmmm YANBU. but I do think you need some kind of confirmation from your parents about what you will inherit in order to be Not Unreasonable.
In the end nobody has a right to something but YANBU to feel put out about this. I would too probably. Are they also expecting you to look after them in their old age?

You are obviously not living in a western culture but I am and my answer would be to move out if you can afford it.
Alternatively you could tell your parents that you will not be paying them rent as you are already paying bills.
You could also tell your parents that you think things are unfair.
We have always tried to treat our children equally and told them to tell us if they thought anything was unfair.
I would never rely on getting an inheritance when someone dies. Things happen. People might need the money. People become old and twisted.

@RR2060 why dont you and your family move out then??? parents can look after themselves! you need privacy!

You know that you will inherit the house and your sister will not.

This is very similar in my country (Australia) with farming families. The girls get given money to buy a house and the boy gets given the farm. But the farm is worth more than the properties the girls get so the boy will have to work for the farm. He will eventually get the farm and all of its houses and equipment and his sisters will get whatever other property is left over - usually the parents retirement property/properties.

That way, the farm stays in the family.

Why are you posting this question to mumsnet and not Reddit?

It sounds culturally very different from what most of us would be accustomed to so it's a bit difficult to answer. Generally speaking, if the idea is that the son takes care of his parents and his wife and daughters they have moves in with her husband and his parents whilst being given financial support by her parents then I guess it's your wife's parents who should give your wife money.

Are your parents saying that your sister is getting this money now because when they are no longer alive you will inherit their house alone?

What is the current finacial contribution between your two families (yours and your parents) and also do they contribute to child care, household chores etc?