Visiting children jumping on arms / back of my sofas

[Poodlelove]

Two occasions this week.
Mum and two children aged 10 and 12 .
Mum sits crossed legged on my sofa with sandals on , the children lie on the arm of sofa, the two children then had an argument and chased each other by running along the back of my sofa.

Other occasion children visiting throw ball for my dogs inside after me telling them not to , and hitting the TV.Ths mum says nothing .

Is this normal ?

If your sofa's were new though would they have to be told not to , or would they still do it ?

I would’ve told them not to. The point is that for us jumping on sofas was fine but it wasn’t for the other person, they rightly told me and it was sorted. You need to speak up - not everyone has the same rules.

Who are they to you? Good friends? Family?
Do they not know your house or what you expect?
What are things like at their house?

you clearly have NO respect for anyone else or their property! Seriously do you think that just because something isn’t brand new it’s old and shit and can be jumped all over and damaged?!?😳😳🙄 My sofa is getting on but is well loved and very comfy and no one is allowed to jump or run on it or treat it like shit and it will last a lot more years because of this! If I had anyone in my house who allowed their children to treat it like
shit they would be leaving with a foot up their arse!

you’re bringing up your children to to be rude and entitled and this will affect their long term friendships and relationships - and it’ll be your fault as a shit parent!

Id have had told them all to get the hell out of my house after 5 minutes.

Just tell them to stop!

Paddington hard stare and a “we don’t do that here”.
(Addressed to mum, clearly where they’ve learned their manners.)

Children jumping on sofas are as old as sofas. Mum not telling them to stop, no. Uptight people who don't know anything about children, also an oldie.

The mum shouldn't have needed to ask you to stop your children jumping on her sofa.

Being polite and respectful of others and their things would have meant you not assuming that it was okay for that sort of behaviour in someone else's home.

If you had good manners, you should have immediately stopped your children and not have someone else ask you to do it.

It is NOT something anyone should have to ask for. It is absolutely standard, normal and good manners for children NOT to climb and jump on other people's furniture and it doesn't matter what goes on at their own home. If your kids can't behave well in other people's houses, or won't, don't take them - and never expect people to have to ask for basic good manners.

At bare minimum, parents must TRY to teach their children respect for other people's homes and property and be seen to be trying. No need for any oh buts or what ifs.

Many people are too well mannered or non confrontational themselves to want to say anything and will tolerate disrespectful, lazy parenting rather than possibly cause a scene, until it becomes unbearable.

And, of course, when a lazy, ill mannered parent allows their children to behave badly there is the underlying fact that they already do know that their kids are misbehaving and are choosing to ignore it, which also makes it awkward for the person trying to decide to say anything. Since the other parent already does know their children are misbehaving the person on the receiving end has to factor in whether they want to deal with that level of lazy, entitled parenting and excuse making - or just say nothing.

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Your house, your rules. You should have taken the ball off the second lot.

When my children were younger I had 3 rules for them when visiting someone else's house. 1. Say please and thankyou 2. Always flush the toilet 3. Don't rearrange their furniture. Honestly, there's nothing more annoying when a child visits and decides to throw all your cushions onto the floor. They're 15 and 17 and I still remind them just in case. They usually look at me as if I'm mad.