AIBU?

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Help, as feeling upset.
My adult daughter and I had serious falling out. My sister knows about it. My sister invites both of us to theatre with her own family. I decline. My daughter then invites sister and her family to MY flat, where my daughter is staying (bill and rent free, I live elsewhere) for drinks and nibbles before theatre. My sister and family accept.
I feel that this is outrageous, that my sister and her family should have had more sensitivity than to go to MY flat when they knew I had serious falling out with my daughter. My sister thinks she has done nothing wrong. What do you think?>

I think life's too short

So your daughter can’t invite people to her home?

You are asking them to take sides and that rarely goes well. On that YABU.

As you’re not in the flat, it’s a red herring.

Do you want to work things out, or do you plan to ask your daughter to leave as part of this falling out?

It’s her home, even though you own it. She can invite guests to have drinks and nibbles with or without your permission

It’s your daughter’s home. You shouldn’t be expecting your family to take sides.

You sound childish to decline an invite. That was petty. Could you not have used that opportunity to build relationships with your dd? I couldn’t imagine not speaking to my dd, or at least not trying everything to make amends.

You think your sister should not see your DD because of something that’s nothing to do with her?

YABU

Do you really want to this petty a person?

The flat is either your DDs home or it isn’t. She’s either allowed to do what she wants in her own home, or if you don’t want that to happen, evict her. 🤷‍♀️

Why are you providing a flat free? Have you posted about this daughter before? ND and argumentative? You’re both very privileged and she refuses to move out and yet you keep paying for her?

Your daughter's on Stately Homes, isn't she? Just a hunch.

Your sister has done nothing wrong.

sounds like the real issue is your falling out with your DD but her continuing to live for free in your flat. That’s for the two of you to resolve, nothing to do with your sister.

My imagination is spinning at what you've fallen out about... your dynamic from 1 post sounds interesting.

You're expecting your sister to take your side in an issue she has no involvement in?

You're expecting your daughter to not invite people to a flat where she lives.

You're petty and unreasonable. Grow up, stop being shitty, petty and toxic.

Next year.... My daughter is NC and I have no idea why...

Having just read your other thread about the en suite I’d be amazed if your DS ever wanted to go on holiday with you again!
I can bet that the reason why your DSis got so angry at you is because you’re coming across as being so entitled.