To skip my work “farewell” on my last day?

[ByCheekyLemonPeer]

It’s my final day at a job I’ve found quite challenging (manager issues, poor communication etc). I’ve already handed over my work, I’m not feeling 100% (had a sick day yesterday and my manager said I still sound sick in our 1-2-1 today) and this morning my manager sent a last-minute calendar invite for a 30 min “farewell” on Teams at 4.30 with the whole team.

It’s clearly just for optics, she even admitted she thought my last day was on Friday and only remembered today. I’m tempted not to join, finish my work and log off quietly.

Would that be unprofessional or is it fine to skip it given everything?

Bin it off.

@CurlyKoalie

Never heard of a farewell on Teams before. Sounds a bit disrespectful.

The prevalence of WFH means Teams can often be the only way to get people together for a goodbye these days, maybe 15 in the office in a meeting room and as many again from home.

What did you decide @ByCheekyLemonPeer? We need to
know!

No is the best word, once you learn to say it.

Suck it up. It’s a few minutes. Better to leave on good terms with possible future contacts.

so unprofessional to not turn up without notifying them!
Some people might be fond of you and want to wish you well. Why burn bridges?

Send a "reply to all" saying thank you, but you do not want to do this, and will not be taking part. You also could say something along the lines of "My thanks to those colleagues who have been supportive, I have learnt much in this job, and I wish you well as I move forward in my career." Thus implying that some staff have NOT been supportive, and you've learnt what a sh*t place it is to work.....but politely 🤭

I declined the meeting and wrote that I was still feeling under the weather and that I didn’t think I’d be able to join the meeting. I mentioned that I’ve appreciated working with the team and wished everyone the best going forward.

No, I think you’ll regret it. Always best to leave on a good note. I felt exactly the same as you in my last job, was so tempted to duck out the last meeting, and I’d told them I’d try and make it as my laptop was being collected same day. I did attend and it was really lovely and I was able to wish them all the best (even though I wasn’t really feeling it). But afterwards I felt pleased with myself for leaving on a really positive note. Never burn your bridges …

Perfect!