Husband being very Rude

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Cut the crap and here is my question to you all

I am diabetic aged 43 and Pcos and other health issues .My husband knows this fully that being pregnant means a high risk pregnancy and everything .
I have a 13 year old son who is well and goes to a good grammer school
In summer holidays he goes to some local clubs and swimming regularly .
My husband instead of appreciating this knowing my full history moans so much about my son not having a sibling .This Topic is also touchy to me and so it literally brings up tears in my eyes as if I am to be blamed
Are there not single children in this world who are doing well .What choice do I have really ?
I also work full time and I cant give time to my only son .Sometimes we also arrange play dates with local friends .I think I have done enough in my capacity to make him a good person .
I sometimes think next time he brings it on the table I would just pack up bags and leave .Honestly I have had enough!

I was an only child and I’ve had a successful and happy marriage, career and life in general. Being an only isn’t some sort of disability.

Is he looking for a sticking to beat you with? This is very strange.

Thanks I am just looking for opinions on his behavior .I cant change it

It's really odd that he is even thinking about this when your DC is 13, having a sibling at his age us really unlikely to enhance his life in anyway. It's really horrible that he brings it up when he knows it upsets you. Maybe he is just saying it to hurt you.

Dont know but I have been made guility many times .I dont think so this sort of marriage is healthy for me in the long run .I am just loosing my mind

Is the 13 year old not his?

(As you said I have a son...)

Sounds perfectly sensible not having another. It would be of no benefit to your 13 year old. Nothing wrong with being an only child.

Is he moaning at you or is he struggling with the fact he won’t have any more children? It’s difficult if you want more and can’t have them. Could it be that and you thinking he’s attacking you?

Or is he attacking you?

Type 1 diabetic?

The age gap would mean he would still be like an only child in so many ways anyways! They're not going to have grown up together side by side .. I'm with you on this. It's your body your choice, why's he making you feel guilty!

Your husband is a prick.

I adore our gang of 3. My DD is a beautiful human who is loved by lots. I would say being an only has benefitted her greatly and that is coming from someone with 4 siblings!

Realistically, what is a 13yo boy going to do with a baby? How will it benefit him when he'll be off to college and uni in a few years?

Sorry to be blunt, but the reality of you even being able to have a child is remote and if it did happen, you could have a baby around when your some is studying/taking his GCSE's

Tell your husband to go fuck himself.

He says I am just moaning about it and this is not personal .I dont get it ,Moaning every other month and not being mature to undertand it .
I think he just regretting the fact that he didnt took enough intiative earlier to look into the fact that we might or might not have be in a position to have more children and now regrets the fact that time has passed .
( But honestly after 2 D and C and many hospital appointments my son was a prayer answered from god .He has so many health issues .I left my job looked after him .I was in no position to have another the same moment .
He is also very insecure about our son .( Son is ours both his and mine)
He would do anything to get him admitted to hospital even for a minor injury .
I do understand and empathise with him sometimes but as I am growing older my patience level towards it is becoming zero .

Miserable men are miserable whatever you do.

If it wasn't this he'd find something else to moan about.

Being an only child is quite common; some kids may wish they had a sibling at some point and others may be happy not to. And some children and some adults are close to their siblings and others aren't. I'm also not sure how close siblings with a 13+ year age gap are necessarily going to be, at least while growing up, nor how thrilled a young teen will be about a new baby in the house. If your husband has some romantic idea about how great it is to have a brother or sister and how awful it is not to have one, it's just that - a story, a projection.

It would be awful (and irresponsible) to have a child that both parents don't actively want. Your husband should be able to accept a firm no from you, especially as you've very clearly laid out your reasons, and decide if your not wanting another child is a dealbreaker for him or not. If it is a dealbreaker, he can end the relationship and see if he can arrange to have another child with someone else.

Did he have siblings? He didn’t seem to learn anything from it if so!

Type 2 here

moans so much about my son not having a sibling

Even though the subject brings you to tears

BIG RED FLAG. He's waving it...

your DH is the problem, not the lack of sibling.