Facebook marketplace sale gone wrong

[CarrotCake69]

I offered to post an item on my husband's behalf on facebook marketplace. We agreed for the item to be picked up at particular time. After 2.5hr the buyer was still not there. I wanted to go to bed so told my husband to wait (since it was his item and his money). He started getting annoyed (understand that) but raising his voice at me even I was doing him a favour and dealing with all the communication etc.

Anyway the buyer came eventually but didn't have cash and didn't apologize for being late. I was annoyed at that point as well so didn't go to bed.

I don't blame him to get annoyed about the situation but I blame him for raising his voice at me (it wasn't my fault after all, the buyer kept on saying they are coming and just delaying the timeline further). AIBU to be pissed off at my husband for raising his voice at me?

I should say the sale didn't take place after all. The buyer said they are making a transfer but started getting items in the car before making a payment. Obviously, the atmosphere weren't great at home because we argued so it does not necessarily mean they they didn't intend to pay, but certainly was bit suspicious.

I feel like there’s a lot missing here.

Why did you list it instead of him? Why didn’t you or he tell the buyer that you’re going to bed now and not to bother because they’ve missed the chance? What did your DH say to you when he raised his voice? What was he annoyed about? Why didn’t you go to bed afterwards?

He shouldn’t have raised him voice at you and it doesn’t sound like you’ve done anything wrong.

He said if they are not coming by a particular time we are cancelling it. He didn't blame me as such, but he directed his annoyance at me and raised his voice.

The problem is, they kept on saying they are close and coming soon, but 15 minutes turned into 30 and then 4 minutes into 10.

He is simply too lazy to handle this on his own so gets me to do it. That particular items takes a lot of space in the house and I just wanted to get rid of it. And overall I don't mind helping him.

I didn't go to bed because I really got annoyed at him. I thought what's the point of me being in bed if I can't sleep now anyway might as well just go downstairs and deal with it myself.

Honestly, it’s not ideal but I couldn’t get too wound up about someone raising their voice about something that is, objectively, frustrating if he wasn’t actually blaming you for anything but was just expressing frustration at the situation.

You wanted it gone too so I’m not sure it was really that much of a favour to him either, from his perspective.

This would just be one of those not ideal things that’s not worth making into a bigger issue I think.

@ConfusedSloth - there wasn't any blame directed at me as such, no. But I certainly took it personally. (There are more things going on lately that I am not happy with when it comes down to his behaviour and how it affects me but it's separate from the situation in question)

Thank you for sharing your opinion