Kids room sharing, despite having space?

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I have a 3&4 year old, 13 months apart both boys.

my eldest has a larger room, with built in wardrobe & my youngest has a box room - I WFH full time & do a university degree (i have a small desk in my front room currently) which works well, as I do it while the kids are here, but with them both being in full time school/nursery next month… and my hours going up, with two monitors needed etc, I dont really want that in my front room.

they fight of course, but they have said about sharing, currently each parent puts one child to bed, and the amount of books etc & lack of time is frustrating, as one always then asks for the other parent etc, it might be easier for us all.

i feel guilty as of course we do have a room, whether this is unreasonable or not for them, they are very little, but I also dont want someone to kill the other in their sleep 😂

At that age you might find it actually works better with them sharing. It’s certainly perfectly reasonable for them to share when you need a home office, and I know other people in this situation who do exactly that. My girls are 11 and 14, each with their own room, but prefer to share a room a lot of the time anyway so are forever having “sleepovers” usually with the youngest on a pull out bed in her sister’s room. I know quite a few people with kids who also have lots of sibling sleepovers despite having separate rooms. It’s lovely when they get on well.

My 2 year old and 4 year old share a room (both boys). We have two spare rooms which we use for other things. Sometimes they go down together, sometimes the little one goes down first. They have great fun together in there in the mornings and I think it’s a good experience for them (my DP and BIL also shared a room growing up). When they’re older one will move into the room next door which is (thankfully) exactly the same size but I’m not imagining that happening until the elder one is at least 10. It’s never crossed my mind to feel guilty about it!

I shared for years out of choice!, plenty of spare bedrooms. My dc chose to share until one turned 11/12

It's what we do. No need for kids that age to have their own room. We are prepared to separate them out later if teens wand more privacy, but for now they would prefer to have the company anyway.

My children shared a room at the oldests request when we moved to a new house. We thought it was a comfort thing so let them share and there were never any problems. They have their own rooms now, and like their own space. But it didn’t do them any harm to share for a while.

Absolutely fine.

They'll probably need their own space down the line, but for now it's fine.

If they are actually volunteering to share then that's fine. If there's lack of storage could they store some stuff in the box room?
If you need the box room for work then fair enough, otherwise it could be a communal room with toys/other stuff in storage, a small desk and day bed for everyone to use?

Sounds like you need the office at the moment.

Mine shared until 5&7... would have been longer if introvert DD1 didn't need Quiet Space. (They frequently slept together after DD1 moved into spare room,especially at weekends, but she needed that space to escape too)

Its barely big enough for his bed, so the other room is actually enough to put all their toys in & bunk beds etc, but I still need storage myself, gonna have to be savvy with that i think 😂 lots of shelves needed

That's fair enough. Just do it. The kids say they are happy to share. X

Id do it. My 2 eldest shared til they were 6 and 8.

My two boys shared until they were 10 and 12 - and had very happily shared with their sister until they were 6, 4 and 2. There’s no “of course” to boys fighting, and learning how to share a room, toys etc, may be helpful here.