To have walked away from this accident?

[ThatCyanSheep]

I went out on a walk after work today (I’m WFH, so it’s nice to get some time outside). It was raining pretty heavily and as I came back to my house, a learner on a
motorbike came down the hill to the junction. As he stopped he skidded, and the motorbike landed on top of him. I immediately asked if he was okay, if he needed anything, wanted me to call anyone or if he wanted a cup of tea.

He’d got himself up by this point and said he was okay, I asked again if he was sure and he said yes, so I went inside. My partner got home about half an hour after it happened and I told him what I’d seen, he was horrified and said I should’ve invited the biker in and called either someone to pick him up, or an ambulance! I said I didn’t realise that because he seemed okay, but my partner seems genuinely upset with me for not doing more. Was i unreasonable to have left the biker?

I feel pretty confidant that you would have been able to judge whether the ridger actually NEEDED someone else to pick him up, etc., and can't see how your partner can actually judge you, and think he knows best, bearing in mind that he wasn't even there OP. I wouldn't give it any further headspace.

What more does yout partner think you should have done. You went out and spoke to him. You offered to contsct someone for him and offered him a cup of tea. I dont see what more you could do.

He thinks I should’ve made sure the guy came inside, had a drink and was safe to ride again. He’s into motorbikes so thinks I was negligent in not doing that. The rider seemed more embarrassed than seriously hurt though

You behaved perfectly properly. Tbh, I wouldn’t invite a random biker into my house, But anyway, he didn’t accept your invitation.

Is your partner always so prescriptive and critical ? That’s a big 🔥⛳️ For me.

All you could've done is ask them if they need an ambulance. If they don't seem well enough to make that decision then I'd have called one. But you must never try and move someone who's fallen in an accident as it can hurt them more.

To say you should've invited them into your house is a bit extreme. I mean encouraging them to stand and walk could worsen their injuries. They may stand and walk in shock in badly broken bones.

You did your best.

What were you supposed to go - kidnap him by force? 😅

I thought from the title that you had just walked past without doing anything, and was ready to say you were wrong, but you clearly did all you reasonably could.

I think if a motorbike had just fallen on me, I’d probably not want a cup of tea. 😂😂

I'm a rider. You did exactly the right thing and needed to do no more. Hth

He stood up and was walking okay, he had a painful shoulder but nothing an ambulance was needed for? I hung around for a minute or two but it was raining, I checked out the window and he had moved on, so he can’t have been too badly hurt.

Now I’m second guessing though because he’s insisting that the rider could’ve been really badly hurt and end up in a much worse accident. Should I have called an ambulance??

If it was at a junction he would have been going very slowly, and as he was a learner it would have been a small bike so I wouldn’t have thought he would have been badly injured.

I skidded and fell off twice in the wet due to skiddy road markings and road surface repairs when I was a learner and soon after I’d passed my test. I was fine but mightily embarrassed.

I did know a guy who was in a serious motorway RTA in a car and stood up and tried walking even though he had broken his thigh bone, but he was in shock.

yes he definitely seemed more embarrassed than hurt! The bike landed on his leg but not heavily, if that makes sense? It was more he bashed his shoulder, but it wasn’t the sort of hit that could dislocate it

Accident or not I wouldn’t be inviting a male stranger in to my home when I’m alone. And DH should respect that. The only thing at a push I would have done - and I say at a push would insist we call 111 together just for a peace of mind. But no, you’ve done the right thing.