To be hurt to have not received a gift for baby

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I want to preface this by saying whilst I don't expect a gift, given past experience which I'll explain, I think I'm justified to be hurt having not received one. Husband said he probably just didn't think...

I have recently had my first baby and my dad hasn't bought the baby anything. He is always the first person to buy children of his friend's a small gift if they have a baby (which he usually gets me to go and choose) and it was the same for my nephews when they were born. We have been given a card. Even £10 to say oh go and pick an outfit or put that in a piggy bank would have been nice.

He then randomly asked if my husband's mum bought our pram (she didn't, we have bought baby everything) which I also though was odd as he didn't offer to contribute at all.. again not that I expect it. She did however put together a little hamper with some money which was very kind of her. Although most women would be more thoughtful anyway.

AIBU?

I don’t understand what you’re hurt about. Your father, by your own account, must be housebound or paralysed, as he has got you buying baby presents for him for every previous baby. Now it’s your baby, he apparently can’t ask you, so you get no present. It’s like people who are always the one to buy the workplace birthday cards and cakes and who are hurt that no one does it for them.

Because its literally “the thought that counts” and he can’t be arsed to think of giving OP a tenner and asking her to buy the baby something.

who and where does it say the ops dad is paralysed?? The poor woman is perplexed as to why her dad hasn't given her baby anything... and if as you put it ' he has you buying the gifts' then he'd bloody slip her some cash to get her baby 'the gifts'. Zero common sense in any thing you said, your point is just to belittle the op.

What a bizarre response. Are you trying to be deliberately obtuse?

My point is that her father has literally never stirred himself to buy anyone’s baby a present, ever. He gets the OP to do that for him, presumably because she’s a girl, and that’s girl stuff. Now she’s had a baby herself, so it’s not computing for him that the usual present-buyer is now the present recipient. Maybe his brain exploded. Either way, it’s still not galvanised him into the crushing difficulty of getting the baby a present.

I'd be hurt, unless he is being very helpful in other ways like dropping things off for you etc and he might not have the head space or free time
To think about token gift