Kicked boyfriend out the house this morning

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My boyfriend is very confident and really doesn’t care what other people think. He walks around my house naked, which doesn’t bother me since I have curtains in every room except the kitchen. I’ve told him countless times not to go into the kitchen without boxers on (the window is on the side of the house, so it’s not super visible, but the neighbours path is close by, so they could easily see him) and he just ignores me.

He says that the neighbours shouldn’t be looking in, and if they catch a glimpse, it’s their fault. I don’t see it that way. If I spotted a 6-foot man with his penis out, I’d definitely do a double take just out of shock. He says I should just put up a blind if I’m uncomfortable, but why should I have to? He did it again this morning, and I called him a childish twat and told him to leave my house. He’s more than welcome to do it in his house with his neighbours, but I think he should respect my wishes when he’s at my place.

AIBU?

Do you mean after a shower he then walks round the house naked? Or all the time?

To be honest someone walking around my house naked all the time and sitting on my sofa/chairs would give me the ick.

I'm with youer boyfriend on this one, if the neighbours see anything then they shouldn't be looking in. If he isn't bothered, why are you?

What do you mean, they shouldn't be looking in? It's normal to glance into someone's house if you see movement behind a window.

He's an exhibitionist, OP. I'm glad you've got rid.

because it's her house and her neighbours

Pretty much all the time. He sleeps naked so will just wander around naked until he wants / needs to get dressed. It doesn’t really bother me apart from when he goes in the kitchen.

You correctly reacted to his disrespect. You asked him not to go into the kitchen naked in your house and he does not respect you enough to put some pants on.

You aren't being unreasonable, he should be respect your wishes in your house, having said that you should be able to do whatever you want in your house without worrying about neighbours looking in.

YANBU

the main issue is that it's YOUR house (& neighbours) and you have asked him not to go into the kitchen naked, but he argues his 'right' to - he doesn't have a right to, it's YOUR house, he doesn't respect that.

i suspect if you take a critical look at things there are other ways he shows how little he respects you.

Personally I'd leave him 'kicked out' permanently.

Nothing to do with his nudity.

My neighbours are both permanently naked when home, they're in their 70's (she is just not body conscious at all & he's a bit of an exhibitionist. It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I'm with your boyfriend regarding anyone looking in and seeing an unclothed human body - totally unremarkable really.

BUT the important thing is it's your house, so therefore your rules.

So what are you going to do now?

Is the relationship over or not?

Of course he should respect your wishes in your own house, he sounds like a part who can’t be told what to do even when he is wrong and he probably also doesn’t like being told what to do by a woman…..red flag!!

He doesn't have a right to walk around in your house if you don't want him to. Once you share a house though.......so think very carefully what you want to do.

Has he just left temporarily or is the relationship over?

Personally I do think it would be on the neighbours if they looked in and saw him - there's never a need to casually look through someone else's window. But it is disrespectful of him to ignore your wishes.

Issue isnt that hes nude its that its important to you and he doesnt care

This made me think of 'ugly naked guy' from friends.

I don't have curtains in my kitchen either and I wouldn't want the neighbours to see that either tbh.