Hi.
Anyone else a second time mum who really struggled adapting 1 to 2 kids?
My dc is 7 weeks old and he's quite a high needs baby. Cries a lot and has now been diagnosed with reflux and cmpa, he hates being put down which I struggle with.
I had a difficult birth this time, resulted in prolapse and multiple infections as I had a 3rd degree by my clitoris which was so painful, so been advised not to lift by physio and not to baby wear, my dc hates it anyway. I'm still iron deficient after a pph, on medication.
I struggle to get anything done in the house, or take my dv1 to holiday club during the summer.
I'm exhausted, my partner works so won't do the night feeds and is even reluctant to do them weekends as he's tired.
I'm just struggling this time, more than with the first. I know it'll get better and easier but I think my body is battered and bruised still and not recovered.
My partner asked last night when I asked him to make a bottle 'how do I make it again' as he literally doesn't have to lift a finger with the boys.. I'm at my wits end..
I miss work too, miss the routine, the money.. I'm the breadwinner so I'm struggling with asking dp for money to do the weekly shop as I'm so fiercely independent usually. It's a struggle.. I don't know if it'll get better this time.