Gave a expensive TV to relatives

[Worriedmoma]

I gave a very expensive TV to relatives, with the pay what you can afford for it, didn't expect much gave me the 15 pounds for the new control I'd bought plus five pounds🤔😂😂,then not even a thanks for letting us have it highly disappointing and now thinking to cut thus family member out for such rude behaviour not even a thank you as they walk out the door😕
Both work full time and have a income but not even a bunch of flowers and a thank you not impressed!

You said pay what you can afford. Don’t say stuff like that if you are going to bitch about it on the internet afterwards.

What were the circumstances? e.g.

• Was it something you were getting rid of and you asked them if they wanted it?
• Did they say they were struggling and you offered them a spare that you didn’t use?
• Did you buy them a brand new one?

Ouu nasty!

Not really. YABU.

Sorry but if you wanted to sell it then you should have set a price and given them first refusal. I am getting a new TV and going to sell my old one. I know you are looking for a new one, would you be interested, thinking £50?

Did they actually need an expensive TV? Was it an expense they had planned for?

I my experience, 'expensive' tvs are old hat the minute you've purchased them.

Why did you say they could pay what they wanted, if that’s not what you meant? I’m sorry but that’s ridiculous. People are going to take advantage of you invite them to.

2nd hand tv's are worth fuck all.

So you told them to pay what they could afford? And they did. And you're getting mardy because they followed your instructions?

Give over. Have a word with yourself.

How did this chain of events happen?

I'm assuming you didn't need it or you wouldn't have given it to them?
Yes a thank you and a gesture is nice and plain good manners but I don't think that you should cut them off for it!

YABU. You needed to price it.

I actually find it quite hard to believe that no point during the arranging it collecting process nothing at all along the lines of "awesome, thanks do much" was ever said. It's just habitual reflex surely, let alone for something like this. A bunch of flowers is OTT .

Have to agree with the poster who said not to make offers like that if you're going to bitch and whine about it being taken at face value afterwards. You told them to pay what they wanted, they did and now you're acting like they've done something so awful you're going to cut them out? YABU.

How would you have got rid of it if they didn’t take it.

So essentially you lied about the conditions of you giving them the TV and are now cross that they took you at your word? And you’re thinking of cutting them off for this? Is this a reverse?

So you gave them a tv that you either weren't using or you were getting an upgrade? They paid you £20. Yes, they should have said thank you. It is ride to just take it, give a 20 and not say thanks. But flowers are a bit much to expect and if you wanted them to pay for it, you should have agreed on a price. Cutting them off for this is an overreaction.

It sounds like you thought you were doing them a big favour and they thought it was a normal transaction.
We have away a load of baby stuff for free because it was going to someone we knew, it was probably worth well over 100 pounds but we just wanted it to go to a good home.
If we'd said pay what you can afford and they gave us a tenner then that would be more than enough, as long as they got use out of it.
They did offer money and we were like, no just take it, but in our mind they were doing us a favour.
I think it's a communication failure between you, resolve to communicate better next time.

You might want to look up the definition of gave.

I love the idea from a poster that a bunch of flowers in exchange for an expensive TV is over the top.

You've learned something about them, OP. You were kind to them and they weren't even polite in return. I'm sure you won't forget that.

Not nasty. It's true.

This. YABU for not being clear.

True though.

So they turn up say here's £20 goodbye?

Or more along the lines of £20 ok cheers?