Girlfriend visa

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I don't know if I'm overthinking this situation....my son, 30, was living with me. Basically he started seeing a woman, 43ish, who is here on a working visa. She has a 17 year old son she wants to bring to this country. They have only been seeing each other for 3 or 4 weeks but in that time, she spent a lot of her free time at my house and was sleeping here as well. I said I needed a break from her being here and they agreed but then he brought her around the next evening. She left in a huff after I had words with him. The next night, he slipped her into the house while I was asleep. I found out in the morning when I was woken up. I said she cant come here anymore. My son is moving out to a neighbour's house, paying rent.
I dont know what she sees in my son. He hasn't got a job, he hasn't got a house. She says she wants to bring her son over. I cant help wondering how being with him is helping her get a visa for her son. I wondered if she had intentions of moving into my house. I dont know if im being paranoid. Any thoughts? I hope this all makes sense!!

You are not paranoid. It seems she has a found a meal ticket. You have a cuckoo in your nest.

Does your son work?

No, he is looking for a job. Once he moves out, I'm wondering about having a video doorbell installed so I can see if she comes into the house when I'm not here. I'm just not sure how worried to be!

If your son had a high paying job, his own house, lots of savings etc marrying your son would be a big help in getting her son over here. As your son has nothing he won’t be able to get her son over here as he has no means to support her or the son. I think when she realises this she’ll be gone.

I would seriously consider changing the locks - although that might upset your son even more.

I don't know anything about VISAs but I am guessing she is looking for a convenient husband?

He would need to earn about £40k to sponsor her, more for the pair. Once son is 18 I’m not convinced he ban get in because of his mum. If he owned a house/has savings it might help but I don’t he’s much use to her unless she’s playing a very long game.

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She said she has to be here 2 more years before she gets limited leave to remain. Maybe she just wants him for the passport- I think if they get married, she gets a passport? Hopefully she will toddle off once she finds someone with better prospects.

If he had all those things it is unlikely he would be besotted by a woman in her 40s when he is barely 30. He’d have a lot more confidence about finding a girlfriend his own age.

Thank you all. It's great to come on here and post and get validation and information!

Once he’s moved out change the locks as he doesn’t need a key to a house he doesn’t like in anymore!! Also keep an eye on your credit file as she may have used your address as hers..

I would be suspicious of her so-called “working visa.” What does she do?

It not quite true that your son needs lots of money for her to qualify for a partner visa, but she would need to be here as for 6 years before she could get a British passport using the partner/spouse route
I work with visas, and most people who abuse the system do so by having a baby with a British citizen. It is then difficult for the Home Office to remove them without separating the baby from their other parent.
Of course they may just be in love!

She's a chef at a local hotel. They have sponsored her for 2 years.

Yes, it could be completely legitimate but she said a few things to me that made me think something was off " I can have any man I want", " your son is a boy and I want a man", "I won't have sex with him until he is a man"....why even spend time with him if this is what she thinks? There is always the chance that meanings are lost in translation but it feels odd. Why tell me all those things? Also why tell me about bringing her son over? Maybe she thought I would want to help?

Change the locks and get a ring doorbell.

Honestly, your son sounds a bit emotionally immature, if this is the best he can do. Perhaps, you should cut the apron strings and have him make his own way in the world.

Yes, I agree. He needs to grow up. She could be useful in that regard. He's autistic which explains the immaturity to some extent but really needs to find his place in the world.

If she’s on a sponsored visa with her employer, then her son could potentially be added as a dependant - but her employers would need to agree and pick up the cost when she comes to renew her visa. She’d have to meet the skilled/sponsored visa salary threshold though.

Whilst she sounds dodgy, it's not about the visa. Even if they got married, a spousal visa route is extremely expensive - my friend has one, each time he renews it costs him around 7-8k (half of that is solicitors fees, but as he's self employed and from a country the British government don't particularly like it's not worth him risking applying on his own)
Getting married doesnt get you a passport, it just means you have the option of following the spousal visa route. If she has a work visa and an employer sponsoring her there would be no benefit to her doing that.

Hardly. Even with a spousal visa you have to prove your relationship - my friend had to show photos, holidays, joint bank statements, WhatsApp messages spanning 2 years to get her husbands visa. And it cost £5,000. It’s not an easy process.

Yeah, shock horror, you may be asked to some WhatsApp messages. I mean just imagine the hardship.

And £5k to access a ready made life? Not a bad deal. That’s why millions pay it readily.

A ready made life??? What nonsense.

You’re right. They are being forced to come here. What cruelty.

Uh no. You have no clue

All your worries are hysterical and divorced from immigration reality.

So no not really on everything you have guessed at. She doesn’t just get a passport if they are married. She would need a fiancé visa, then would have to apply once they are married for leave to remain, then indefinite leave to remain then citizenship followed by a passport and then she could sponsor her son. It’s a long expensive process where he has to prove he could financially support her for two years (if she wasn’t working and sponsored) . She is working and sponsored so she doesn’t actually need him for anything ……