Car share

[AmIbeingcompletelyselfishandmoneyminded]

Partner of 5 years living in my house, pays equal share of bills and food.
He had company car, which was returned on retirement. He seemed hesitant in purchasing his own car, and I eventually suggested we shared mine and see how we got on, most trips out are together anyway.
Naturally we both use the car individually at times. I pay all insurance and maintainence etc.

Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to fill the car up with petrol rather than just half a tank. We generally take it in turns to put petrol in and I can't see the point of half filling it, I always just fill it up.... for some reason he doesn't believe in filling a car up.
It's the principal rather than the money, he obviously doesn't pay any rent except food and bills and I feel is taking advantage of me, subsidised living and now car! AIBU?

You feel like he is taking advantage of you because he is taking advantage you.

Have you asked him to fill it to the top when he fills it and he’s specifically refused?

Start charging the lazy fucker rent. Start getting him to pay half your car costs, not just petrol.

No wonder he procrastinates on making decisions if sugar mummy always steps in to pay his bills.

Just to say the more you give men like this, they aren't grateful, they just want a little more and a little more.

You don't charge him rent, is he grateful? Does he treat you to meals or do a big treat shop? I'm guessing no. You let him use your car? Does he fill it back up? No- what a convenient fucking "principal" to have.

He’s not paying an equal share of the bills though if he’s not contributing to the car insurance and maintenance. A car isn’t like a house, it’s a depreciating asset so I can’t see any reason why he shouldn’t be paying half the car costs as well. And yes, he should be putting a full tank of petrol in it. Although I don’t fill mine up completely as one of my old cars went through a period of having its tank siphoned on a weekly basis. They always bloody knew when it was full so I got in the habit of no more than half a tank.

Ask him why he half fills it - some people do so if it is stolen you haven’t lost a full tank of petrol aswell. No problem - he half fills it up twice before it’s your turn again

If it’s a shared car he should fill it up. I never fill mine up though, I hold the pump thing until I’m bored then stop. Can end up anywhere from just under half a tank up to just over three quarters! Drives DH potty, he’s a ‘filler upper’. 😆

Yes I've asked why he doesn't fill it up, he says he never fills a car right up. I've asked him to fill mine up and he just doesn't.