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To not find any other kids cute, except mine?

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Hendion · 10/08/2025 19:40

I don’t actually have kids but I only find my niece and nephew cute, never so much anyone else’s kids. I find most other kids just a bit irritating really.

Is this normal, or am I very cold? 😂

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Kuretake · 13/08/2025 16:07

Noelshighflyingturds · 13/08/2025 14:45

I’m pretty sure we biologically programmed to only find our own adorable
I don’t mind other people, but obviously they’re nowhere near as cute as mine

It is weird isn't it. I love kids generally but when I had my baby I genuinely believed he was the most beautiful baby ever. Like I felt sorry for other parents. When I look back at pictures he appears to have been a pretty standard edition wrinkly new born.

DelilahMy · 13/08/2025 16:14

I like children if they have the same charming habits that I admire in adults - politeness, kindness, humbleness and good manners.

I can't stand spoilt, rude children and I can't stand spoilt, rude adults.

Most children and most adults are lovely.

ConnieHeart · 13/08/2025 16:14

I always remember staying with my friend for a few months. Her son was about 9 months at the time. To me he was just another kid to start with. I then got to know him over the months & really bonded with him & found him really sweet. So I think a lot of it is about getting to know other kids, if you want to, and forming a bond with rhem

TheDogOnlyEatsBiscuitsIfTheyreDippedInTea · 13/08/2025 16:20

I think it’s normal to think your own are ‘better, in every way, for me that extended to nieces/nephews/friends children, but I still used to find other kids cute or sweet. I never found most other kids irritating, although some were awful if they were not parented well. What I have found is that now my own children, nieces, nephews, friends kids are teens and older, I don’t feel as maternal as I used to, I don’t coo over babies anymore and don’t notice notice young kids like I used to. I suppose I’m just past that stage but I expect it’ll come back if my children, nieces nephews, friends kids have kids themselves.

ConnieHeart · 13/08/2025 16:23

I also have got to like lots of my dds' friends, some almost straight away, some took a bit longer & some not at all! These tended to be the rude entitled ones that my dds didn't really choose as proper friends anyway so I didn't have to put up with them too much. They also tend to be more interesting as they get older.

I always remember a trip to the cinema for dd's birthday with 5 of her friends, all aged 9/10 at the time. I predicted which of the 6 would misbehave & not be able to sit still or consider that others might want to watch the film. I was right each time.

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