TL:DR - My husband has had a beard as long as I’ve known him. He knows I prefer it and when he messed up trimming, decided to shave it all off. He was mad/hurt that I cried over this.
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A couple of days ago, my husband was trimming his beard and apparently took a little chunk out. He cut it down and jokingly left a goatee to show me before saying he’d “fix it.”
About 20 minutes later, I’m in the kitchen cooking/distracted when he comes in announcing “I think I’ve made a mistake!”- to my horror he’s shaved his whole beard off and left a mustache. I was taken aback, couldn’t quite look at him and was trapped at the stove whilst he repeatedly asked what I thought. This resulted in me shutting down and crying:/
He walked away, came back and though I had calmed down he was clearly in a mood. Then he proceeded to have a real go at me about crying and how he was mad a me for my reaction and very hurt (I think this is the important bit). Said it’s his face, he can do what he likes and he’d never tell me what to do or react so badly. I tried to explain it was mostly due to shock (and I loved that beard!!) but that was me trying to justify and not just apologize. Our 6 month old was also not impressed lol
We left it for a bit, he then hugged me and apologized, I apologized again unreservedly and all fine now. Think he’s feeling a bit sheepish for letting the intrusive thoughts win and isn’t a big fan of seeing his chin after 15 years hah. Cue jokes at brunch the next day about casting him in Super Troopers.
Was I a heartless harpy? Or is my STRONG preference for his facial hair and the shock a valid reason for crying??