Work friends went out drinking without me

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ThatLilacHedgehog · 10/08/2025 01:20

So at work I thought i made some really good friends, we share a group chat with the 6 of us in and we organise drinks occasionally and talk a lot. However tonight i watched one of their instagram stories and 3 of my supposedly work friends were out drinking together, so they organised this without me and I don’t know how to feel, because we were supposed to be friends and I would have thought they would have organised this in our chat.

am I being unreasonable for feeling left out and sad?

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Maddy70 · 31/08/2025 23:05

3 out of 6 of you ... You weren't singled out.
They are allowed to have small gatherings too. They haven't hidden it as they've put it on social media! You sound rather insecure my lovely. Please don't mention this to them as you'll come across as needy and that's a sure fire way not to be invited next time.

Just like the picture, and "say looking lovely ladies"

LurkThenPost · 01/09/2025 00:22

latetothefisting · 31/08/2025 22:48

so basically no point in ever making friends with anyone then, as there is always the possibility you might fall out at some point?

So what if you lose touch with people? If you used that rationale there would never be any reason to make friends with anyone? Even if you don't see each other as much once you've left the same workplace (or uni/gym/whatever) doesn't mean the friendship wasn't worthwhile at the time.

I don't get this 'it's only real friendship if it lasts forever' rationale. It's normal to not have the same friends for your entire life - if anything it's probably healthier than only being mates with people you met in reception aged 5.

Most people have several different romantic relationships throughout their life - it doesn't mean that all of the ones before they met their final partner were pointless and they should have just stayed single until they met The One.

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This is my opinion, you do you. I be polite and friendly, but I know they’re not my friends. I’m not rude whatsoever. I don’t know why you’re so triggered.

latetothefisting · 01/09/2025 13:57

Disagreeing with you doesn't equal being "triggered," what an odd thing to say.

Jorge14 · 01/09/2025 22:38

Learn not to care. It’s the power of ‘let them’. I live like this now and it’s easier

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