DS 25 never had a relationship yet

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DS is 25 and has never had a partner that I am aware of? Can I ask the mums of mumsnet if you're DS is in the same position?

Why does it matter?

If DS is healthy & happy, surely that's the most important thing.

They are allowed to ask a Q - that’s what this site is for after all

Are you sure? At that age (and a bit younger) I had a very active personal life but my parents would've been none the wiser. Even when I was first seeing DH I told them we were just friends until I knew it was going somewhere (we were friends previously)

It’s pretty normal for a parent to wonder and ask for views on an anonymous forum.

I was fairly virginal until my mid-20s and then made up for it over the next 20 years or so.

Perhaps it’s more significant if your DS has friends and is able to connect with people generally, or finds all social contacts tricky

So?

How would you know? He's an adult man. I know I had relationships at that age (and earlier) that my parents knew nothing about.

Or, he can't be bothered. Also valid.

To answer your question - a few of my friends got their first partner around 25 but I know a few who have still never had a proper boyfriend. I also know a man (36) who has never had a girlfriend either.

My DS2 is 28..never had a relationship. He just isn't interested in anyone, male or female, however he is also autistic and the things that interest him aren't generally people related.
A couple of DS1's friends have never , to my knowledge had girlfriends or boyfriends) One is very shy, and I don't think has ever approached anyone.

Not everyone needs someone, I guess the question is, is he happy solo?

I didn’t tell my parents about any of my boyfriends much at that age, and I absolutely hated older relatives prying with a ‘have you got a boyfriend yet?’ - ugh still makes me shudder now.

Leave him be, having a relationship in your early 20s isn’t the best all and end all, and even if he has it’s none of your business until he wants to tell you.

Dp’s son turned 25 recently and as far as I know hasn’t had anything you’d call a relationship. I do wonder if he is on the autistic spectrum - not because he doesn’t have relationships, but other things make me think that.

I do think some people take a while to grow into themselves. I would say he’s only known what his path is for the last 18 months or so. I’d also say that he seems pretty happy. I should think he’ll have a partner one of these days.

Where we can, we do bbqs and stuff and invite him to things to keep him meeting people.

He might not want a relationship. Maybe he's casually dating, or maybe he's shagging a different girl every week. Would you really expect him to tell you all about it over Sunday lunch?

My own kids all had relationships by age 20 but they all have friends who haven't had any relationships and are mid twenties. I have a friend who has two sons aged 27 and 29 and neither have had a relationship that she knows of. I really don't think it's unusual. I think it's really hard sometimes for young people to meet others and date. l