To think friend wanted my house and land

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About 2 years ago a friend I hadn't seen for 10 years knocked on my door. She said she was passing and wanted to see me again and leave her contact details. I had listed my property and land for sale and the for sale sign was in the garden. I suspected something wasn't quite right so I never contacted her. I have just discovered that she buys and sells houses and I wonder if she was just going to use me to get my property. Aibu to not trust her?

Edit: I always really liked her but she dropped me for no reason and then she shows up 10 years later.

Sounds like it but if shes willing to pay a fair price then thats great

Why would you assume she wants to “get” your property and not buy it for a fair market price?

Yeah, you’re BU. She wants to help you sell your house but didn’t want to say that she never liked you either. It sounds like a mutually agreeable transaction for me, no need to make it about emotions.

Sorry, I didn't explain properly. The land was sold separately with planning consent but she thought we were just selling it with the house as garden. I think she may have thought we didn't realise its value.

This was two years ago? Two years? You're still thinking about it after all that time?

Wow. Some friend you are. Maybe she saw the for sale sign and actually wanted to connect with you as a friend before you disappeared forever because she wouldn't know where to find you after you moved.

I think in the OP and the updates you're coming across as very paranoid. Do you find it hard to keep friends because after a while it turns out they're mysteriously all plotting against you in some way shape or form?

Not at all. It was actually friends today who told me that she was buying and selling property.

So she makes a living by buying and selling property, which is all fine and legal. She discovers your house and land are for sale and visits you. Yes, I expect she was going to hit you with an offer, which is also fine and legal. I really don't see the issue here. You said you haven't seen her for 10 years - which is a long time - so she's hardly your closest and most trusted buddy. Maybe she was only after one thing but you do have the perogative and intelligence to decline any offer or suggestion she makes. I'd understand it more if you were vulnerable in some way, but otherwise (unless you honestly think she's operating illegally) then what?

So you say to yourself 'Oh, maybe that's why she knocked on the door' and then move on with life.

So she's buys property. You had a property to sell. She may have reached out to you to see if you wanted to sell the property that you had for sale to her. But she may have been out of line wanting to buy a property that was for sale?

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She wouldn't have "got" your house. If it wasn't for sale with the land then it couldn't have happened anyway, and if it was for sale with the land then she would have made an offer, like anybody else, and you would have accepted or refused.

Once you have sold your house and moved on, it doesn't really matter what the new owner does with it.

She never mentioned the property, just that she wanted to keep in touch as friends. That's sneaky if she just wanted the property.

You think she was going to attempt to somehow get herself onto the deeds of your property without giving you any money?! How would she go about that?

It sounds a very extreme reaction. I mean, if she was interested in buying it why wouldn't she just say. And if not I don't see how you think she could 'steal' it from you?

You've misunderstood. She said she wanted to keep in touch as friends, never mentioned the property but today I discovered she buys and sells property so I'm thinking she was just wanting to be friends again to then offer to buy my property. Deceitful if true.

You've seen her once in 12 years, the one time you did see her she told you to get in touch and 2 years later you haven't. Why so you need to wonder if you can trust her? She isn't part of your life and hasn't been for a long time. So what if she wanted to buy your house? I do suspect though that as she didn't put in an offer she was probably genuinely interested in your friendship.

If she does want to buy your property and you're selling, then what's wrong with it?

Or she may just want to keep in touch. As you say she's not mentioned the property. So no need to make assumptions.

But would you object to selling to her out of principle if she offered a great price? She could be helping you out if you want your house sold?

If you are going to see a link between the two, surely the much MUCH more reasonable line of thought is "as friend buys and sells property, she came across mine being for sale. This prompted her to take action to get in touch again, after casually thinking from time to time: 'oh I should get around to contacting OP again she was nice'."

How does your mind go immediately to your bizarrely nefarious scenario?

I don't think any of us can say what the woman's motives are based on the info given and without knowing her. You clearly have no interest in rekindling the friendship regardless of her motives so why not just ask her?

I get it, OP.

I don't suppose you're really all that bothered if she wanted to buy your house and land but her sudden emergence from thin air, claiming she was passing and indicating she wanted to resume the friendship doesn't sit well with you now that you have learnt what she does.

It's made you feel that her motives were disingenuous and now you feel manipulated.

And probably a bit let down if you thought her contact was unexpected but nice.

I don't think she's done anything wrong but I can also understand why you feel a bit disappointed.

Were you close years ago?

It was 2 years ago. Surely you would know by now if she only wanted to buy your property, as she would have said something?

It does sound like you’re a bit paranoid.
What was it about her first visit tnat made you suspicious and not want to contact her? At that point you didn’t know she was into buying and selling, so why did you see it as anything more than an old friend dropping by?

Also do I assume you hadn’t heard from her for 10 years, this incident happened 2 years ago and you haven’t contacted her or spoken to her in that time… why are you even bothered? This is a woman you’ve not properly seen for 12 years, I really couldn’t imagine caring either way about what her intentions were.

This is such a non-issue, stop giving it space in your head.

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