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AIBU?

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To ask my mum if she would take my kids for tea?

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shybaby · 28/05/2008 23:28

Im having my kitchen floor tiled. I had no idea that they would be turning up this week and was totally unprepared. I have all my appliances crammed into my living room, no toilet (only have one toilet, access through the kitchen). I couldn't get to the cooker. Its a blardy nightmare. 11 year old ds is fine, but 4 year old dd is unimpressed and bored shitless. I cant take them out because I have a man working in my house, (and it has peed it down for two days). I cant get any toys out because I have no floor space. Then to top it all off, when I thought I was sorted, my sink started pissing out water all over the (unfinished) floor.

Mum happened to be here (she lives in the next street) and made some comment about how my "poor ds" was starving. (This was the exact moment the sink started pissing out). I asked (In a slight panic) if the kids could possibly have tea at hers. My stepfather started pulling faces at me, sighing, huffing and puffing, rolling his eyes etc. FFS, its not like im going down the pub. I hardly ever go out (about 3 times a year) so its not like im just being lazy.

I only asked for one meal for them, even if it was microwave, just to help me out while I mopped up all the crap and waited for plumber type man.

I am bad daughter of the century yes?

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LuckySalem · 28/05/2008 23:29

No YANBU - Unless they were going somewhere/doing something specific that was already planned.

saadia · 28/05/2008 23:30

that they were so reluctant to help and YANBU.

chunkychips · 28/05/2008 23:31

beggars belief.

Nixz · 28/05/2008 23:38

My parents live in the next street.
They have every excuse in the book.
I wouldnt mind but they only watch TV and eat!
My brother is coming over from Spain tonight with his wife and 2 children. Parents say things like "my god they are here for 3 nights, well dont think they will be doing blah blah and dont think I will be doing blah Blah"!
No wonder we are moving to the opposite end of the country and brother has left the country.
I often think, would I do that to DD? Or, what my DD must think by hearing that they dont want her.

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shybaby · 28/05/2008 23:40

I shouldn't be surprised at my stepfather. I know this. He likes to tell my mum im a drama queen (despite the fact she has seen what a mess we are in at the moment).

I just feel really sad and tearful about it

Give me a kick, i'll be fine.

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lins1uk · 28/05/2008 23:42

course yanbu shes your mother she should be helping you out!
i know what i would tell your stepfather to do lol.

nametaken · 28/05/2008 23:43

Shybaby - after you asked them, did they say yes or no?

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shybaby · 28/05/2008 23:46

Mum said yes, while stepfather rolled his eye, mumbled, bitched and made me feel like crap. 30 mins later mum phoned me to get them back. Dd came back saying she had no tea because she is "too slow" and there wasn't time. Apparently. She didn't give any details about what was said and luckily I was able to cook them something later on.

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LyraSilvertongue · 28/05/2008 23:46

Definitely not too much to ask and to be honest they should have offered. My mum would have. She's just had DSs all day while I went to work and even had them a bit longer so DP and I could go out for a meal.

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shybaby · 28/05/2008 23:47

That would be eyes of course, not just the one! (he doesn't have that kind of talent )

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nametaken · 28/05/2008 23:51

YANBU - remember this day when your parents are old and infirm and need some kind of assistance

Nixz · 28/05/2008 23:55

Sorry for hijacking your thread, try not to get upset. I always do and dp becomes very cross.
Its so personal isnt it? And frustrating!

Do you have any friends that may be able to help when you are desperate???

Nixz · 28/05/2008 23:56

I have actually just realised that if you had friends that could help, you wouldnt of asked your parents, who you probably knew would complain!

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shybaby · 29/05/2008 00:13

I do have a really good friend but three miles is useless when its a "pop around" situation and neither of us can drive!

I had similiar a couple years ago when my ceiling came down (due to a leak) while I had a two year old in the bath, the electrics blew (cue two kids screaming their heads off in the dark!) I got to the phone and called mum, she came around and let us stay at her house. sf made me feel like shit then too. Not really sure why. The snide comments really get my goat. I am a single mum as you've probably gathered so they are really the only port of call sometimes.

I dont put on them, but he hates me coming around full stop, let alone when its a bit urgent.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr. Ranting really helps!

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PInkyminkyohnooo · 29/05/2008 00:18

If you asked me, YANBUU

If you had asked my parents, they would consider it the ask of the century!

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shybaby · 29/05/2008 00:29

gawd why are parents like this? There's the kid who wont leave the nest where tough love may be a good thing..then there's the kids who try to go it on their own as much as possible and need a back up at times. I hope my kids never feel that they couldn't come to me in a time of need because im sure I would help them out (I doubt i'll ever have cash dripping from me) but any other way I can i'll be happy to!

(even if it is just a spraying sink unit)

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