Mum is making comments about my weight every day

[Lunalara]

I am struggling at the moment, because my mum keeps telling me off about my weight. For context, I used to be size 8, and now I am size 12. However, it was unhealthy to be size 8 as I am 5ft7. For some reason, she thinks that being size 8 is a normal weight.

Whenever I have a treat, even for events like Easter, my mum won’t stop going on about how I will definitely have diabetes. Recently, me and my boyfriend had a couple of slices of pizza many hours after we had lunch. We were hungry as we had a light lunch. That caused mum to be judgemental about my weight.

AIBU to be deeply upset by how often this is happening? While I know she has good will, the constant comments about weight are really weighing me down (no pun intended). I also live with her, so I can’t easily ignore the comments.

I can sympathise. My mums dreadful when it comes to mentioning weight. It’s all she bangs on about. “I need to loose a stone” is said in every conversation by her. Even though she’s about 5ft 2” and a size 8.
Ive had no end of comments about my weight I’m a size big size 10/small size 12 (if only there was a size 11!) . Then there’s the comments about other people’s weight. I swear she could see a friend who’s she’s not seen since school days and the first thing she will mention is their weight. Not what they’ve done with their life, first thing is how big they are.
personally I’ve called her out on it and told her to leave me and other people alone when it comes to weight. But speaking to my friends who have mums of similar ages, they all say that there’s do the same.

It's that generation in my view. My mum does it, her friends do it, my aunts do it and my parents friends do it. All my friends say this. The first thing they comment on when they see someone is their weight even on TV, I have become immune to it and always ignore. Its hard at times

No advice only solidarity. My mum is exactly the same. The difference between our situation is that both me and my mum are overweight. She has been for as long as I can remember. I put on weight when I returned to work full time after having my child. For my mum it is about her own insecurities. I’ve called her out for it numerous times but it makes no difference. She always turns on the water works and doesn’t see how much she has affected my mental health over the years. The best things I’ve done is moved further away from her and restrict how much access she has to me and my child. I continue to call her out for her nasty comments even if it makes no difference. I do this in the hope that she will finally see how she has affected me over the last 25 years.

Are these mums in their 60s?
those of us who were teens in the 80s and 90s were seriously fucked up by the constant media noise about being thin. Every movie, ad, model, music video was either shaming anyone not bone thin or celebrating those who were skeletal. Several models even died.

i am not excusing the behaviours just giving context. I’ve worked really hard to re-establish healthy thinking around body image for my entire life

why do you feel that your life is a mess?

is this the major problem in your lie?

I thought my life was pretty good until li had psychosis and lost every single thign I worked for

im a bit concerned for you if you tihnk this makes your life a mess?

Not only is this a zombie thread, you need to reflect on the way you talk to people.