Yeah it’s a sorry state isn’t it.
I don’t think a lot of people realise how bad it can be. I certainly didn’t when I first moved here. The first day dd started, two mums in front of me at pick up laid into each other, there were hair extensions flying everywhere and a lot of the other parents were cheering them on. I went home absolutely shocked. I’d come from a school in the Home Counties that was the complete opposite in every way!
Now, five years on, it doesn’t even register with me. I’ve become so desensitised to it, a couple of parents scraping the playground doesn’t even interest me enough to glance over for more than a second. I sometimes don’t even notice. How sad is that?
I have to say though, I can’t fault the staff and teachers. Some children thrive at that school, mine have. They have been very honest with me at times, told me that they can’t support dd with her learning as much as they want to due to having to deal with behaviour issues in class. They gave me advice on what extra tuition to go for, what books to buy. Her year 5 teacher would email me extension work he thought she should be doing but that he just didn’t have time to support her with in class, he was also very supportive with 11+ and gave up one lunch hour a week to sit with dd and go through test papers.
So at my children’s school, if you want them to support you, they will. But that requires giving the teachers respect, speaking to them like they are human beings and not people who are out to get you, working with them for the benefit of your child, working with them all to try and make the school a better place, and ultimately, teaching your children how to behave by setting an example of how to act.
Unfortunately, there is a proportion of society who can’t and won’t do that. That’s does mean that other children miss out. My dd didn’t have a year. 6 residential. The school hasn’t done one in years due to behaviour issues. they say at the start of year 6 they will assess and they never go ahead.
They just can’t trust a lot of the children to be taken away, it’s not safe for them, the staff and the other children (another parent who had older children there told me that there was an arson attempt on the last year 6 residential they did, so they stopped them altogether after that).